UNBUTTONING

Author and therapist Taosaka aims to relieve anxiety, reframe negative thought patterns, and reveal the mind of the high-achiever with this self-help book.

Though the highly motivated, highly successful, and highly adept individual may seem like to have everything figured out, such individuals, per Taosaka, actually face a mountain of hidden struggles that their peers don’t perceive. As the author explains, “Welcome to the high-achiever’s dilemma - the paradox of being outwardly successful yet inwardly exhausted, mentally drained, and constantly chasing the ever-moving finish line.” High-achievers often struggle with overthinking, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome (the feeling that they don’t belong, or haven’t earned their place); Taosaka helps this cohort confront these issues by examining the “why” behind harmful thought processes and outlining techniques to combat stress. These exercises (commonly added at the ends of the chapters in sections titled “Ease Into It”) are “soft, actionable prompts” that include breathing techniques, journaling ideas, and mindfulness practices. In addition to discussing relevant research, differing philosophies, and various helpful strategies, Taosaka peppers success stories throughout each chapter—mostly those of celebrities (Albert Einstein, Oprah Winfrey, and Stephen King, to name a few)—who have confessed to struggling with the issues covered here. (Of Winfrey, the author writes, “By training her mind to focus on simplicity rather than fear, she learned to trust her intuition and make decisions from a place of assurance, rather than anxiety.”) The text also contains nutrition tips and explains the science behind emotional regulation without becoming overwhelming. Each chapter is graspable for any reader, with enough action items to get one started on a path to undoing harmful overthinking. As Taosaka reminds his readers, in order to start this journey, “You don’t need to be fearless. You need to be willing.”

An actionable approach for perfectionists looking to lead less stressful and more fulfilling lives.