RICH IS BETTER by Tessa Albert Warschaw


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Therapist Warschaw (Winning by Negotiation) thinks it's time for women to shed their Poverty Mentality--and even those who don't feel especially prey to Ambivalence, Undeservedness, Vain Hope, or Guilt may come around to agreeing that she has something here. There are indeed exercises to exorcise those demons, with the slight difference that men are figured in positively: why look for a male clone, when what you need is a complement? Why not ask your employees for help, the way men do? The second section takes up the problems of couples--including the ""nurturance gap"" and how to accept male nurturance in ""different forms, different packages."" But it's on divorce and the uncomfortable business of having money--two areas where Ambivalence, etc. are rife--that Warschaw might especially get women to thinking and acting in their own interests. She notes that 67 percent of American women are divorced, and that 47 percent of those entitled to child-support payments aren't gettting them--because they let men get away with it. There are foresighted ways of handling a divorce settlement (mediation is not only less stressful than litigation, it far reduces the likelihood of nonpayment); there's a reminder that a father should be getting something for his money. (Maybe the original of a child's report card too, not just a xerox.) But when the checks stop coming, ""instruct your lawyer to take full legal action."" On another action-front, Warschaw writes truly: ""Having money is like not having a toothache. Men have always known this. . . They put [money] where it belongs: at the top, not the bottom, of their agenda."" Warschaw would have you trade (literally) on your skills, look for partners, ""invest in yourself."" And at length and in detail, she puts insurance agents, bankers, and other financial professionals to the test. The overall idea, contrary to the nay-sayers (cf. Hilary Cosell, above), is that abundance is attainable.

Pub Date: Feb. 15th, 1985
Publisher: Doubleday