Widowhood is a blast, says Graham, but you've got to get off your rump, meet people, adopt new sports or hobbies and--above all--use every ploy possible to get a new husband. Graham ignores the male-female odds as she serves up improbable strategies--including that of a woman who caught a newly minted widower by haunting an intensive-care waiting room. The one-time TV gab-lest hostess, now a professional celebrity, was at first devastated by the death of Harry, her husband of 42 years. But she soon shook off the doldrums and began accepting invitations from friends pushing ""dream men""--who turned out to be nightmares. She even tried dating services with mixed, but interesting, results--though she thinks they're great for women under 60, which she isn't. She also busied herself by shaking up recently widowed friends who had ""dropped out of sight,"" literally forcing them to get out and start living the rest of their lives. They all thanked her. As Graham bustles through these pages--tossing out snippets of advice on how to avoid scares, catch a prince rather than just anything in trousers, throw parties (a few recipes are included), keep oneself beautiful, handle relatives, etc.--she liberally seasons her decidedly mixed salad with material from other advice-to-widows books. Like most celebrity self-help offerings, this one is breezily written and occasionally amusing. It is also, alas, 95% froth, 5% content.