The structure of the family has changed and is still in flux: new conformations mean new problems for family members. Gay describes what a family is, how different one family can be from another, and what being a family member involves. There is a lot of territory to cover here, but she glides over the surface on a wave of statistics. The anecdotal cases offered, however brief, will seem more immediate and thus more appealing to young reader. But no solutions are given for stressful situations, other than commenting that one function of a family is to teach members to get along together, and offering standard steps in problem-solving as a tool. Such topics as abusive family members, divorce, and gay parents are mentioned but not explored. The most useful features of the book are the lists of ""Organizations Helpful to Families"" and of ""Further Reading."" Index.