A flawed yet candid and heartfelt memoir.
A well-known book critic’s account of dealing with double depression and a family history plagued by mental illness.
For as long as she could remember, Patrick, author of The Books That Changed My Life, knew only “bad days, bad days, bad days, and some worse days.” Girlhood sadness gave way to a darker “permanent haze” in adolescence, which only increased her feelings of alienation. Despite her anguish, however, Patrick managed to lead an apparently successful life that included college, marriage to a caring man, and an editorial career. Even so, her mental health struggles intensified to the point that suicidal ideation became “normal.” It was not until her early 50s that she was correctly diagnosed with a combination of persistent depressive disorder and major depressive disorder. As she grappled with her past, Patrick came to understand that her depression was genetic (inherited from two mentally ill grandmothers) and perhaps also epigenetic (caused by inherited memories of transgenerational alcoholism and abuse). The author also realized that her suffering had been mitigated by the consistent presence of “genuine love and affection.” Yoga, the correct medication, and the courage to repair depression-damaged relationships with her daughters had also allowed her to find the wellness that eluded other family members. Her sister, for example, has lived with symptoms of bipolar syndrome and borderline personality disorder. This has made interactions difficult, but ultimately, a unique kind of love has prevailed. “That love may not look like love to someone who thinks all siblings should be close, or that all siblings should just leave each other alone save for holiday greeting cards,” writes the author. “It’s love nonetheless. It’s a bending, stretching kind of love, a love that adapts to circumstance and needs.” Though the prose is pedestrian and often repetitive, Patrick offers valuable insight into what it means to live with a debilitating mental illness.
A flawed yet candid and heartfelt memoir.Pub Date: May 16, 2023
ISBN: 9781640091290
Page Count: 208
Publisher: Counterpoint
Review Posted Online: Feb. 15, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 15, 2023
BOOK REVIEW
Well-told and admonitory.
Young-rags-to-mature-riches memoir by broker and motivational speaker Gardner.
Born and raised in the Milwaukee ghetto, the author pulled himself up from considerable disadvantage. He was fatherless, and his adored mother wasn’t always around; once, as a child, he spied her at a family funeral accompanied by a prison guard. When beautiful, evanescent Moms was there, Chris also had to deal with Freddie “I ain’t your goddamn daddy!” Triplett, one of the meanest stepfathers in recent literature. Chris did “the dozens” with the homies, boosted a bit and in the course of youthful adventure was raped. His heroes were Miles Davis, James Brown and Muhammad Ali. Meanwhile, at the behest of Moms, he developed a fondness for reading. He joined the Navy and became a medic (preparing badass Marines for proctology), and a proficient lab technician. Moving up in San Francisco, married and then divorced, he sold medical supplies. He was recruited as a trainee at Dean Witter just around the time he became a homeless single father. All his belongings in a shopping cart, Gardner sometimes slept with his young son at the office (apparently undiscovered by the night cleaning crew). The two also frequently bedded down in a public restroom. After Gardner’s talents were finally appreciated by the firm of Bear Stearns, his American Dream became real. He got the cool duds, hot car and fine ladies so coveted from afar back in the day. He even had a meeting with Nelson Mandela. Through it all, he remained a prideful parent. His own no-daddy blues are gone now.
Well-told and admonitory.Pub Date: June 1, 2006
ISBN: 0-06-074486-3
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Amistad/HarperCollins
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 15, 2006
A wonderful page-turner written with humility, immediacy, and great style. Nothing came cheap and easy to McCandless, nor...
The excruciating story of a young man on a quest for knowledge and experience, a search that eventually cooked his goose, told with the flair of a seasoned investigative reporter by Outside magazine contributing editor Krakauer (Eiger Dreams, 1990).
Chris McCandless loved the road, the unadorned life, the Tolstoyan call to asceticism. After graduating college, he took off on another of his long destinationless journeys, this time cutting all contact with his family and changing his name to Alex Supertramp. He was a gent of strong opinions, and he shared them with those he met: "You must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life''; "be nomadic.'' Ultimately, in 1992, his terms got him into mortal trouble when he ran up against something—the Alaskan wild—that didn't give a hoot about Supertramp's worldview; his decomposed corpse was found 16 weeks after he entered the bush. Many people felt McCandless was just a hubris-laden jerk with a death wish (he had discarded his map before going into the wild and brought no food but a bag of rice). Krakauer thought not. Admitting an interest that bordered on obsession, he dug deep into McCandless's life. He found a willful, reckless, moody boyhood; an ugly little secret that sundered the relationship between father and son; a moral absolutism that agitated the young man's soul and drove him to extremes; but he was no more a nutcase than other pilgrims. Writing in supple, electric prose, Krakauer tries to make sense of McCandless (while scrupulously avoiding off-the-rack psychoanalysis): his risky behavior and the rites associated with it, his asceticism, his love of wide open spaces, the flights of his soul.
Pub Date: Jan. 1, 1996
ISBN: 0-679-42850-X
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Villard
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 1995
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