Expert advice for parents and teens backed by relevant research and clear thinking.
A map to the social media maze for parents and their teenagers.
Parenting a teenager has never been easy, but social media has made it much more difficult. Heitner specializes in this field, and her 2016 book, Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World, was widely praised. In this follow-up, she returns to some of her previous themes, punctuating the text with accessible advice and numerous anecdotes. She believes that trying to prohibit a teen from using social media is unlikely to work. After all, kids have grown up with the internet and can circumvent bans. She suggests that a mentoring approach is better than stern rules. Heitner acknowledges that finding the right balance in parental supervision and intervention is often a tricky matter of judgment. For example, some teens are opposed to being tracked by their phones, but others accept it as an appropriate security measure. Many teens see social media as a crucial part of their lives, especially in being part of a peer group. One major problem is that the rules about what is acceptable and what is not keep changing, and some teens constantly worry that a wrong word could see them shunned. Parents are often concerned that unsuitable posts might affect their teen's application to a desired college, although research shows that such cases are rare. They can advise their kids to think before they post anything, and a useful guide is to think about whether they would put whatever they are posting on a T-shirt. In the end, the best ways to mentor are by examples and through communication. "Parents should shift their focus from consequences to building character," writes Heitner, "and to teaching their kids to respect their own privacy and reputation by modeling that respect for them."
Expert advice for parents and teens backed by relevant research and clear thinking.Pub Date: Sept. 12, 2023
ISBN: 9780593420966
Page Count: 304
Publisher: TarcherPerigee
Review Posted Online: May 24, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 15, 2023
Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should...
Greene (The 33 Strategies of War, 2007, etc.) believes that genius can be learned if we pay attention and reject social conformity.
The author suggests that our emergence as a species with stereoscopic, frontal vision and sophisticated hand-eye coordination gave us an advantage over earlier humans and primates because it allowed us to contemplate a situation and ponder alternatives for action. This, along with the advantages conferred by mirror neurons, which allow us to intuit what others may be thinking, contributed to our ability to learn, pass on inventions to future generations and improve our problem-solving ability. Throughout most of human history, we were hunter-gatherers, and our brains are engineered accordingly. The author has a jaundiced view of our modern technological society, which, he writes, encourages quick, rash judgments. We fail to spend the time needed to develop thorough mastery of a subject. Greene writes that every human is “born unique,” with specific potential that we can develop if we listen to our inner voice. He offers many interesting but tendentious examples to illustrate his theory, including Einstein, Darwin, Mozart and Temple Grandin. In the case of Darwin, Greene ignores the formative intellectual influences that shaped his thought, including the discovery of geological evolution with which he was familiar before his famous voyage. The author uses Grandin's struggle to overcome autistic social handicaps as a model for the necessity for everyone to create a deceptive social mask.
Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should beware of the author's quirky, sometimes misleading brush-stroke characterizations.Pub Date: Nov. 13, 2012
ISBN: 978-0-670-02496-4
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: Sept. 12, 2012
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 1, 2012
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Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our...
A psychologist and Nobel Prize winner summarizes and synthesizes the recent decades of research on intuition and systematic thinking.
The author of several scholarly texts, Kahneman (Emeritus Psychology and Public Affairs/Princeton Univ.) now offers general readers not just the findings of psychological research but also a better understanding of how research questions arise and how scholars systematically frame and answer them. He begins with the distinction between System 1 and System 2 mental operations, the former referring to quick, automatic thought, the latter to more effortful, overt thinking. We rely heavily, writes, on System 1, resorting to the higher-energy System 2 only when we need or want to. Kahneman continually refers to System 2 as “lazy”: We don’t want to think rigorously about something. The author then explores the nuances of our two-system minds, showing how they perform in various situations. Psychological experiments have repeatedly revealed that our intuitions are generally wrong, that our assessments are based on biases and that our System 1 hates doubt and despises ambiguity. Kahneman largely avoids jargon; when he does use some (“heuristics,” for example), he argues that such terms really ought to join our everyday vocabulary. He reviews many fundamental concepts in psychology and statistics (regression to the mean, the narrative fallacy, the optimistic bias), showing how they relate to his overall concerns about how we think and why we make the decisions that we do. Some of the later chapters (dealing with risk-taking and statistics and probabilities) are denser than others (some readers may resent such demands on System 2!), but the passages that deal with the economic and political implications of the research are gripping.
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our minds.Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011
ISBN: 978-0-374-27563-1
Page Count: 512
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: Sept. 3, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2011
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