For the puzzled parent who has schooled herself to keep the baby on a rigid routine, with set times for feeding and for play and for cuddling, it will come as a shock that these very regulations may have something to do with her six year old's unruly nature, his hatred of conforming. For the parent who has learned to hide her own angers behind a false front, to conceal differences with her husband ""before the children"", to assume that she has a right to expect surface behavior in public from her child, it will be frightening to learn that only by exploring the emotions behind the actions, and allowing the child to see behind her own falsities can permanent damage be avoided. Differentiate between actions and feeling. Prevention is better than cure, even in adolescence; healing can be achieved by understanding, by bolstering a sense of achievement. First handle feelings, then actions. Dr. Baruch uses case histories and examples to illustrate her ways of letting the badness out, to let the goodness in. She discusses punishments and rewards, shared good feelings and appreciation. She goes from first contacts with the new infant -- she discusses the new discipline in regard to thumb sucking, masturbation, boy-girl relationships and so on. She suggests outlet activities. A controversial book at some points, but constructive on the whole. Lois Fisher drawings have a symbolic quality with underlying humor and understanding. As author of Parents Can be People and other books on parent education, Dr. Baruch speaks authoritatively.