A meandering but intriguing blueprint for changing social relationships.
A new paradigm for personal and social reinvention.
“Many of us have felt boxed in at one point or another,” Torfs and Ampe write in what will strike most readers as an effective note of empathy, “by crippling debt, or a toxic boss, or a bank that didn’t endorse our business plan.” These frustrations have only been heightened by technology and social media. To combat (and subvert) these habits, their guide examines the ways people typically form personal and social relationships and illustrates advice for these scenarios via a series of hypothetical characters, like 19-year-old college student Jake, who faces the typical dilemmas of impending graduation. In his case, one facet of the solution is to cultivate a greater degree of acceptance from his family in order to lessen his anxiety. The family is to “set aside their frameworks of expectations of what he should be, and instead, consider how to support who he is.” The authors explore concepts such as the eight “domains” that contribute to one’s quality of life, including emotional and physical well-being, leisure interactions, self-determination and basic rights, learning and personal growth, and so on. In identifying “tensions” in these domains, readers can take action to bring their well-being into balance and rise above the “ethos of blame.” The guide’s sentiments unfold in the bland, often cliched language of most self-help or motivation books: “Your core values will determine how you make choices,” etc. This tendency sometimes makes the book’s 500 pages feel slow and bloated, but patient readers will find the core concept here—the idea of a “heterotopia,” i.e., a radical re-envisioning of human social structures, to be fascinating and well fleshed out. The book is overlong, but the tenets of creating “an optional, effective, secure financial environment,” where people are autonomous agents but also communally responsible, are deftly explored and thought provoking.
A meandering but intriguing blueprint for changing social relationships.Pub Date: March 31, 2022
ISBN: 978-1-5445-2916-5
Page Count: 492
Publisher: Quality of Life World Publishing
Review Posted Online: May 26, 2022
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should...
Greene (The 33 Strategies of War, 2007, etc.) believes that genius can be learned if we pay attention and reject social conformity.
The author suggests that our emergence as a species with stereoscopic, frontal vision and sophisticated hand-eye coordination gave us an advantage over earlier humans and primates because it allowed us to contemplate a situation and ponder alternatives for action. This, along with the advantages conferred by mirror neurons, which allow us to intuit what others may be thinking, contributed to our ability to learn, pass on inventions to future generations and improve our problem-solving ability. Throughout most of human history, we were hunter-gatherers, and our brains are engineered accordingly. The author has a jaundiced view of our modern technological society, which, he writes, encourages quick, rash judgments. We fail to spend the time needed to develop thorough mastery of a subject. Greene writes that every human is “born unique,” with specific potential that we can develop if we listen to our inner voice. He offers many interesting but tendentious examples to illustrate his theory, including Einstein, Darwin, Mozart and Temple Grandin. In the case of Darwin, Greene ignores the formative intellectual influences that shaped his thought, including the discovery of geological evolution with which he was familiar before his famous voyage. The author uses Grandin's struggle to overcome autistic social handicaps as a model for the necessity for everyone to create a deceptive social mask.
Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should beware of the author's quirky, sometimes misleading brush-stroke characterizations.Pub Date: Nov. 13, 2012
ISBN: 978-0-670-02496-4
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: Sept. 12, 2012
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 1, 2012
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The Stoics did much better with the much shorter Enchiridion.
A follow-on to the author’s garbled but popular 48 Laws of Power, promising that readers will learn how to win friends and influence people, to say nothing of outfoxing all those “toxic types” out in the world.
Greene (Mastery, 2012, etc.) begins with a big sell, averring that his book “is designed to immerse you in all aspects of human behavior and illuminate its root causes.” To gauge by this fat compendium, human behavior is mostly rotten, a presumption that fits with the author’s neo-Machiavellian program of self-validation and eventual strategic supremacy. The author works to formula: First, state a “law,” such as “confront your dark side” or “know your limits,” the latter of which seems pale compared to the Delphic oracle’s “nothing in excess.” Next, elaborate on that law with what might seem to be as plain as day: “Losing contact with reality, we make irrational decisions. That is why our success often does not last.” One imagines there might be other reasons for the evanescence of glory, but there you go. Finally, spin out a long tutelary yarn, seemingly the longer the better, to shore up the truism—in this case, the cometary rise and fall of one-time Disney CEO Michael Eisner, with the warning, “his fate could easily be yours, albeit most likely on a smaller scale,” which ranks right up there with the fortuneteller’s “I sense that someone you know has died" in orders of probability. It’s enough to inspire a new law: Beware of those who spend too much time telling you what you already know, even when it’s dressed up in fresh-sounding terms. “Continually mix the visceral with the analytic” is the language of a consultant’s report, more important-sounding than “go with your gut but use your head, too.”
The Stoics did much better with the much shorter Enchiridion.Pub Date: Oct. 23, 2018
ISBN: 978-0-525-42814-5
Page Count: 580
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: July 30, 2018
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2018
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