A vital celebration of loving.
An examination of how to make heterosexual love equitable.
In a spirited social critique, French feminist Chollet draws on movies, TV, novels, advertisements, psychoanalysis, and feminist theory to examine impediments to fulfilling experiences of heterosexual love. Real, reciprocal love, she believes, feels like a gift, “an intoxicating bond, an immediate and crazily benevolent intimacy with someone who could have been totally unknown to us.” Yet depictions of love in popular culture have undermined that benevolent intimacy by presenting women as weak, vulnerable, and intellectually inferior and fueling male fantasies of women as compliant bodies, silent and docile. “By deluging girls and women with romances,” Chollet writes, “by vaunting the charms and importance of the presence of a man in their lives, they are encouraged to accept their traditional role as caregivers.” Patriarchy, colonialism, racism, and imperialism have validated the image of the domineering man who takes “sexual appropriation of the female body.” The author shows how this depiction helps to explain women’s attraction to male killers and even to the exploitative figure of the male artist or writer, “whose creative process justifies the worst actions against those close to him.” Chollet suggests ways for women to revise the romance narrative by reexamining their own sexual desires, perhaps by subverting the idea of domination. In underscoring women’s need for independence, the author suggests non-cohabitation, which, among other benefits, eliminates the problem of sharing domestic tasks. For Chollet, a happily loved woman, financially independent and childless by choice, non-cohabitation may fit her life more than it would others’. Nevertheless, she is an impassioned advocate of love, urging readers “to breathe life back into it, by pulverizing both the bourgeois straightjacket of the obligatory trajectory of romance, as well as the equally conventional (and limiting) view of destructive passion.”
A vital celebration of loving.Pub Date: July 2, 2024
ISBN: 9781250285720
Page Count: 304
Publisher: St. Martin's
Review Posted Online: April 30, 2024
Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 1, 2024
A moving meditation on mortality by a gifted writer whose dual perspectives of physician and patient provide a singular...
A neurosurgeon with a passion for literature tragically finds his perfect subject after his diagnosis of terminal lung cancer.
Writing isn’t brain surgery, but it’s rare when someone adept at the latter is also so accomplished at the former. Searching for meaning and purpose in his life, Kalanithi pursued a doctorate in literature and had felt certain that he wouldn’t enter the field of medicine, in which his father and other members of his family excelled. “But I couldn’t let go of the question,” he writes, after realizing that his goals “didn’t quite fit in an English department.” “Where did biology, morality, literature and philosophy intersect?” So he decided to set aside his doctoral dissertation and belatedly prepare for medical school, which “would allow me a chance to find answers that are not in books, to find a different sort of sublime, to forge relationships with the suffering, and to keep following the question of what makes human life meaningful, even in the face of death and decay.” The author’s empathy undoubtedly made him an exceptional doctor, and the precision of his prose—as well as the moral purpose underscoring it—suggests that he could have written a good book on any subject he chose. Part of what makes this book so essential is the fact that it was written under a death sentence following the diagnosis that upended his life, just as he was preparing to end his residency and attract offers at the top of his profession. Kalanithi learned he might have 10 years to live or perhaps five. Should he return to neurosurgery (he could and did), or should he write (he also did)? Should he and his wife have a baby? They did, eight months before he died, which was less than two years after the original diagnosis. “The fact of death is unsettling,” he understates. “Yet there is no other way to live.”
A moving meditation on mortality by a gifted writer whose dual perspectives of physician and patient provide a singular clarity.Pub Date: Jan. 19, 2016
ISBN: 978-0-8129-8840-6
Page Count: 248
Publisher: Random House
Review Posted Online: Sept. 29, 2015
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 2015
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A sharp, entertaining view of the news media from one of its star players.
The veteran newscaster reflects on her triumphs and hardships, both professional and private.
In this eagerly anticipated memoir, Couric (b. 1957) transforms the events of her long, illustrious career into an immensely readable story—a legacy-preserving exercise, for sure, yet judiciously polished and insightful, several notches above the fray of typical celebrity memoirs. The narrative unfolds through a series of lean chapters as she recounts the many career ascendency steps that led to her massively successful run on the Today Show and comparably disappointing stints as CBS Evening News anchor, talk show host, and Yahoo’s Global News Anchor. On the personal front, the author is candid in her recollections about her midlife adventures in the dating scene and deeply sorrowful and affecting regarding the experience of losing her husband to colon cancer as well as the deaths of other beloved family members, including her sister and parents. Throughout, Couric maintains a sharp yet cool-headed perspective on the broadcast news industry and its many outsized personalities and even how her celebrated role has diminished in recent years. “It’s AN ADJUSTMENT when the white-hot spotlight moves on,” she writes. “The ego gratification of being the It girl is intoxicating (toxic being the root of the word). When that starts to fade, it takes some getting used to—at least it did for me.” Readers who can recall when network news coverage and morning shows were not only relevant, but powerfully influential forces will be particularly drawn to Couric’s insights as she tracks how the media has evolved over recent decades and reflects on the negative effects of the increasing shift away from reliable sources of informed news coverage. The author also discusses recent important cultural and social revolutions, casting light on issues of race and sexual orientation, sexism, and the predatory behavior that led to the #MeToo movement. In that vein, she expresses her disillusionment with former co-host and friend Matt Lauer.
A sharp, entertaining view of the news media from one of its star players.Pub Date: Oct. 26, 2021
ISBN: 978-0-316-53586-1
Page Count: 528
Publisher: Little, Brown
Review Posted Online: Oct. 25, 2021
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 1, 2021
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