A lucid and well-argued new approach to parenting.
Family psychologist Pressman, with psychotherapist Donaldson-Pressman, presents a surprisingly simple solution to shaping the behavior of children of all ages.
The author draws on his long experience working with kids as director of research at the New England Center for Pediatric Psychology in Providence, Rhode Island, to provide parents with a behavioral approach that he recommends to get good results. He distills his experience into a three-word formulation: “What’s the Rule?” In dealing with children, he advises a two-part process: If the child agrees to do some task that they don’t want to do—a homework assignment or a room-cleaning, to name two common examples—then the child gets to do something they want to do afterward.And if the child then becomes fractious, the parent simply asks, “What’s the Rule?” Pressman strongly asserts the effectiveness of this approach. “It’s just like Harry Potter’s magic wand; unless you know how to use these three words, it’s just a plain old stick,” he writes. “But using them properly, makes them magic.” The bulk of the book consists of Pressman elaborating on how to use those magic words properly. The requested task, for example, must meet five requirements: It must be clear, achievable, related to a specific time period, reinforceable, and consistent. To further illustrate how his system works, Pressman-Donaldson presents stories of 13 behavioral issues that could complicate matters. The author takes an even-handed approach and makes clear that his method isn’t always guaranteed. The book effectively combines his explanations with a wide variety of individual parenting stories, never blithely overpromising and firmly grounding his method in the real world. Whether the titular three words work in all cases or not, Pressman’s approach clearly has potential to teach youngsters that life is about compromise and give-and-take. As such, caregivers will find much food for thought here.
A lucid and well-argued new approach to parenting.Pub Date: June 6, 2023
ISBN: 9780983218364
Page Count: 188
Publisher: Good Parent Inc.
Review Posted Online: Feb. 13, 2024
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
Some of Avant’s mantras are overstated, but her book is magnanimous, inspiring, and relentlessly optimistic.
Memories and life lessons inspired by the author’s mother, who was murdered in 2021.
“Neither my mother nor I knew that her last text to me would be the words ‘Think you’ll be happy,’ ” Avant writes, "but it is fitting that she left me with a mantra for resiliency.” The author, a filmmaker and former U.S. Ambassador to the Bahamas, begins her first book on the night she learned her mother, Jacqueline Avant, had been fatally shot during a home invasion. “One of my first thoughts,” she writes, “was, ‘Oh God, please don’t let me hate this man. Give me the strength not to hate him.’ ” Daughter of Clarence Avant, known as the “Black Godfather” due to his work as a pioneering music executive, the author describes growing up “in a house that had a revolving door of famous people,” from Ella Fitzgerald to Muhammad Ali. “I don’t take for granted anything I have achieved in my life as a Black American woman,” writes Avant. “And I recognize my unique upbringing…..I was taught to honor our past and pay forward our fruits.” The book, which is occasionally repetitive, includes tributes to her mother from figures like Oprah Winfrey and Bill Clinton, but the narrative core is the author’s direct, faith-based, unwaveringly positive messages to readers—e.g., “I don’t want to carry the sadness and anger I have toward the man who did this to my mother…so I’m worshiping God amid the worst storm imaginable”; "Success and feeling good are contagious. I’m all about positive contagious vibrations!” Avant frequently quotes Bible verses, and the bulk of the text reflects the spirit of her daily prayer “that everything is in divine order.” Imploring readers to practice proactive behavior, she writes, “We have to always find the blessing, to be the blessing.”
Some of Avant’s mantras are overstated, but her book is magnanimous, inspiring, and relentlessly optimistic.Pub Date: Oct. 17, 2023
ISBN: 9780063304413
Page Count: 288
Publisher: HarperOne
Review Posted Online: Aug. 17, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2023
An intriguing but uneven family memoir and travelogue.
An author’s trip to Venice takes a distinctly Borgesian turn.
In November 2020, soccer club Venizia F.C. offered Nigerian American author Madu a writing residency as part of its plan “to turn the team into a global entity of fashion, culture, and sports.” Flying to Venice for the fellowship, he felt guilty about leaving his immigrant parents, who were shocked to learn upon moving to the U.S. years earlier that their Nigerian teaching certifications were invalid, forcing his father to work as a stocking clerk at Rite Aid to support the family. Madu’s experiences in Venice are incidental to what is primarily a story about his family, especially his strained relationship with his father, who was disappointed with many of his son’s choices. Unfortunately, the author’s seeming disinterest in Venice renders much of the narrative colorless. He says the trip across the Ponte della Libertà bridge was “magical,” but nothing he describes—the “endless water on both sides,” the nearby seagulls—is particularly remarkable. Little in the text conveys a sense of place or the unique character of his surroundings. Madu is at his best when he focuses on family dynamics and his observations that, in the largely deserted city, “I was one of the few Black people around.” He cites Borges, giving special note to the author’s “The House of Asterion,” in which the minotaur “explains his situation as a creature and as a creature within the labyrinth” of multiple mirrors. This notion leads to the Borgesian turn in the book’s second half, when, in an extended sequence, Madu imagines himself transformed into a minotaur, with “the head of a bull” and his body “larger, thicker, powerful but also cumbersome.” It’s an engaging passage, although stylistically out of keeping with much of what has come before.
An intriguing but uneven family memoir and travelogue.Pub Date: April 2, 2024
ISBN: 9781953368669
Page Count: 144
Publisher: Belt Publishing
Review Posted Online: Nov. 17, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2023
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