An energetic, optimistic call to accept imperfections in ourselves and others.
A manifesto against the detrimental effects of perfectionism.
Collins and Molitor strike upon the theme of their collaboration early by introducing readers to the Japanese art and philosophy of kintsugi in which broken pottery is made both stronger and more beautiful through the process of repair. They counterpose this philosophy against the relentless pursuit of perfection they’ve each encountered in their personal and professional lives, hoping their book will serve as a guide for the reader to “find joy” in our imperfect selves without giving up on improving things. They refer to this flawed state as being “flawsome” and advocate the spreading of “flawsomism” in order to embrace not only our own flaws, but those of the world around us, citing the benefits of cultivating inner calm and self-worth. “When you start embracing your authentic self, just the way you are—and just the way you aren’t,” they write, “your sense of self-esteem will continue to expand and grow.” The authors frequently reflect on their own personal histories growing up in families with perfectionist expectations, where the “never good enough” messaging was painful. Consequently, several of their fast-paced and well-designed chapters have concentrations on parenting, where they focus on empowering children to become “happy, healthy, and confident adults, knowing they are enough and perfectly flawsome just as they are.” The authors’ call to “strive for excellence, not perfection” is a refreshing reminder of how corrosive self-criticism can be, and they make a strong case for “flawsomism” as a legitimate path to betterment. “Unless you embrace that imperfection in yourself—all those imagined reasons you’re not ready,” they write, “you’ll never start that business, that project, that piece of art you’ve been envisioning.” The obvious contradiction here between accepting flaws and striving to improve is weakly addressed and not always well served by many of the real-world examples they provide: like the Play-Doh company, for example, which grew to success by adapting to changing markets, not by accepting flawed product. Even so, their warnings against joyless perfectionism are worth heeding. Note: The authors recommend readers go to a website, complete a survey, download an extra book, take a quiz, qualify for a discount, and scan a QR code before reading the book.
An energetic, optimistic call to accept imperfections in ourselves and others.Pub Date: April 26, 2024
ISBN: 9781934229422
Page Count: 202
Publisher: WME Books
Review Posted Online: Oct. 15, 2024
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.
A noted actor turns to verse: “Poems are a Saturday in the middle of the week.”
McConaughey, author of the gracefully written memoir Greenlights, has been writing poems since his teens, closing with one “written in an Australian bathtub” that reads just as a poem by an 18-year-old (Rimbaud excepted) should read: “Ignorant minds of the fortunate man / Blind of the fate shaping every land.” McConaughey is fearless in his commitment to the rhyme, no matter how slight the result (“Oops, took a quick peek at the sky before I got my glasses, / now I can’t see shit, sure hope this passes”). And, sad to say, the slight is what is most on display throughout, punctuated by some odd koanlike aperçus: “Eating all we can / at the all-we-can-eat buffet, / gives us a 3.8 education / and a 4.2 GPA.” “Never give up your right to do the next right thing. This is how we find our way home.” “Memory never forgets. Even though we do.” The prayer portion of the program is deeply felt, but it’s just as sentimental; only when he writes of life-changing events—a court appearance to file a restraining order against a stalker, his decision to quit smoking weed—do we catch a glimpse of the effortlessly fluent, effortlessly charming McConaughey as exemplified by the David Wooderson (“alright, alright, alright”) of Dazed and Confused. The rest is mostly a soufflé in verse. McConaughey’s heart is very clearly in the right place, but on the whole the book suggests an old saw: Don’t give up your day job.
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.Pub Date: Sept. 16, 2025
ISBN: 9781984862105
Page Count: 208
Publisher: Crown
Review Posted Online: Aug. 15, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2025
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A pleasure for fans of old-school historical narratives.
Avuncular observations on matters historical from the late popularizer of the past.
McCullough made a fine career of storytelling his way through past events and the great men (and occasional woman) of long-ago American history. In that regard, to say nothing of his eschewing modern technology in favor of the typewriter (“I love the way the bell rings every time I swing the carriage lever”), he might be thought of as belonging to a past age himself. In this set of occasional pieces, including various speeches and genial essays on what to read and how to write, he strikes a strong tone as an old-fashioned moralist: “Indifference to history isn’t just ignorant, it’s rude,” he thunders. “It’s a form of ingratitude.” There are some charming reminiscences in here. One concerns cajoling his way into a meeting with Arthur Schlesinger in order to pitch a speech to presidential candidate John F. Kennedy: Where Richard Nixon “has no character and no convictions,” he opined, Kennedy “is appealing to our best instincts.” McCullough allows that it wasn’t the strongest of ideas, but Schlesinger told him to write up a speech anyway, and when it got to Kennedy, “he gave a speech in which there was one paragraph that had once sentence written by me.” Some of McCullough’s appreciations here are of writers who are not much read these days, such as Herman Wouk and Paul Horgan; a long piece concerns a president who’s been largely lost in the shuffle too, Harry Truman, whose decision to drop the atomic bomb on Japan McCullough defends. At his best here, McCullough uses history as a way to orient thinking about the present, and with luck to good ends: “I am a short-range pessimist and a long-range optimist. I sincerely believe that we may be on the way to a very different and far better time.”
A pleasure for fans of old-school historical narratives.Pub Date: Sept. 16, 2025
ISBN: 9781668098998
Page Count: 208
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: June 26, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 1, 2025
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