A thorough and encouraging multistep program for improving communication for better parenting results.
Strategies and advice for parents to shape the behavior of their children.
Burton, a pediatric behavior specialist with decades of experience, opens her nonfiction debut by acknowledging how challenging parenting can be in the modern world—everything costs more, communities are less extensive and more transient, and social media is full of advice that’s relentless, loud, and often contradictory. “Today’s parents,” she writes, “are substantially overworked, overburdened, and under supported” while dealing with experts and advisers who “try to make parents feel like we have the skill level of newborn lambs wearing roller skates.” The author draws a distinction between conventional parents who are loyal to tradition and “freestyle” parents who are more open to innovation; in these pages, she lays out 21 “practical pathways” that parents can use to shape the responses they want. “The most obvious way parents can steer children’s behavior,” Burton asserts, “is to give clear verbal instructions about our expectations,” but that approach obviously doesn’t always work. This is where the author’s multiple tactics come in, including “auto-responding,” “a form of preconscious, agreeable compliance”; “guided venting,” which is “a process of identifying our children’s underlying physical energy needs and diverting them towards completely different activities we approve of”; and the atonement technique, in which “the goal is for the culprit to acknowledge and offset the harm they’ve caused by taking purposeful action to make the victim feel better.” Burton outlines all of these approaches in clear, forceful prose that’s perfectly suited to harried parents who feel overwhelmed. They’ll greatly appreciate her humane, empathetic approach and lack of ideological rigidity—the author allows that sometimes, despite parents’ best efforts, these tactics will fail. “Sometimes we miscalculate what sort of intervention will help,” she admits. “When the wind changes, it’s time to adjust the sails.”
A thorough and encouraging multistep program for improving communication for better parenting results.Pub Date: Aug. 8, 2026
ISBN: 9781923583320
Page Count: 264
Publisher: Ultimate World Publishing
Review Posted Online: Aug. 8, 2026
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our...
A psychologist and Nobel Prize winner summarizes and synthesizes the recent decades of research on intuition and systematic thinking.
The author of several scholarly texts, Kahneman (Emeritus Psychology and Public Affairs/Princeton Univ.) now offers general readers not just the findings of psychological research but also a better understanding of how research questions arise and how scholars systematically frame and answer them. He begins with the distinction between System 1 and System 2 mental operations, the former referring to quick, automatic thought, the latter to more effortful, overt thinking. We rely heavily, writes, on System 1, resorting to the higher-energy System 2 only when we need or want to. Kahneman continually refers to System 2 as “lazy”: We don’t want to think rigorously about something. The author then explores the nuances of our two-system minds, showing how they perform in various situations. Psychological experiments have repeatedly revealed that our intuitions are generally wrong, that our assessments are based on biases and that our System 1 hates doubt and despises ambiguity. Kahneman largely avoids jargon; when he does use some (“heuristics,” for example), he argues that such terms really ought to join our everyday vocabulary. He reviews many fundamental concepts in psychology and statistics (regression to the mean, the narrative fallacy, the optimistic bias), showing how they relate to his overall concerns about how we think and why we make the decisions that we do. Some of the later chapters (dealing with risk-taking and statistics and probabilities) are denser than others (some readers may resent such demands on System 2!), but the passages that deal with the economic and political implications of the research are gripping.
Striking research showing the immense complexity of ordinary thought and revealing the identities of the gatekeepers in our minds.Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011
ISBN: 978-0-374-27563-1
Page Count: 512
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Review Posted Online: Sept. 3, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2011
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These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.
A helpful guide to working effectively with people from other cultures.
“The sad truth is that the vast majority of managers who conduct business internationally have little understanding about how culture is impacting their work,” writes Meyer, a professor at INSEAD, an international business school. Yet they face a wider array of work styles than ever before in dealing with clients, suppliers and colleagues from around the world. When is it best to speak or stay quiet? What is the role of the leader in the room? When working with foreign business people, failing to take cultural differences into account can lead to frustration, misunderstanding or worse. Based on research and her experiences teaching cross-cultural behaviors to executive students, the author examines a handful of key areas. Among others, they include communicating (Anglo-Saxons are explicit; Asians communicate implicitly, requiring listeners to read between the lines), developing a sense of trust (Brazilians do it over long lunches), and decision-making (Germans rely on consensus, Americans on one decider). In each area, the author provides a “culture map scale” that positions behaviors in more than 20 countries along a continuum, allowing readers to anticipate the preferences of individuals from a particular country: Do they like direct or indirect negative feedback? Are they rigid or flexible regarding deadlines? Do they favor verbal or written commitments? And so on. Meyer discusses managers who have faced perplexing situations, such as knowledgeable team members who fail to speak up in meetings or Indians who offer a puzzling half-shake, half-nod of the head. Cultural differences—not personality quirks—are the motivating factors behind many behavioral styles. Depending on our cultures, we understand the world in a particular way, find certain arguments persuasive or lacking merit, and consider some ways of making decisions or measuring time natural and others quite strange.
These are not hard and fast rules, but Meyer delivers important reading for those engaged in international business.Pub Date: May 27, 2014
ISBN: 978-1-61039-250-1
Page Count: 288
Publisher: PublicAffairs
Review Posted Online: April 15, 2014
Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 2014
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