This debut self-improvement guide defines an exhaustive list of common dysfunctions in daily life and offers a series of steps to handle them.
Psychologist Sherman delivers a book that will allow readers to quickly understand underlying psychological difficulties and work to resolve them. In the first part of this guide, she provides short chapters defining common issues to help readers isolate the sources of their problems, such as personality disorders, trust issues, bullying parents, codependency in relationships, and attachment problems. She then illustrates these dynamics by using anecdotes about her own patients. The stories also skillfully illustrate common interpersonal relationship issues, such as shaming and codependence. Next, the author provides a nine-step guide to accomplishing major changes in perspective in order to overcome the dysfunctions listed. These steps include self-soothing, developing boundaries, using biofeedback, and conquering one’s fears, among others. The book is successful in providing a path to self-improvement by focusing inward, eliminating negative thoughts, and listening to an inner voice that can clearly state boundaries, desires, needs, and decisions. For example, in the self-soothing section, the author effectively provides practical options, such as getting in a car to take a ride when one is stuck in a house with too many people. Even readers without any access to therapy may employ the solutions here, which make the book as a whole a potentially valuable resource for those seeking change on their own. Another highlight of the book is its section on strategies for improving one’s “inner-language,” such as by saying “I have a little setback” rather than “I am depressed.” At times, the explanations of common problems and dysfunctions can be overly general and quick. However, the heart of the book lies in its strategies, which readers can instantly put into action.
A positive manual for restructuring one’s thoughts and habits to increase wellness.