Another attempt by Delaney (Living Your Dreams, 1979, etc.) to whip our sleeping selves into waking fulfillment through step-by- step home remedies, visits to the author's Dream and Consultation Center, or both. Delaney advises that one keep dream journals, write brief biographies of family members, and ``incubate'' dreams to grow self-esteem and cure creative blocks. It will probably come as no surprise to most readers that personality can be expressed in sexual interactions. But read on if you want to learn to distinguish power struggles in bed from playful dominant/submissive erotic encounters. Delaney's ``interview'' method is endlessly introspective, basically narcissistic: ``How did you feel in bed with your most recent major lover?...Write down in the space below just how you felt.'' Or you might tell your dream to someone else who interviews you about it while pretending to be a visitor from another planet. Whether it's a celebrity or family member one dreams about, one is encouraged to describe the personality traits of that person and how they correspond to you and/or someone you are currently involved with (``You see the bear as a victim, a cuddly being you feel sorry for. Remind you of anyone?''). Incest dreams can signify buried memories of childhood sexual abuse, and the author provides a resources guide for victims. And one can't quarrel with her warning to avoid sex with one's therapist. With regard to the Creativity/Sexuality link: if you're feeling blocked, the titles of case-study dreams alone might be enough to get the juices flowing (``Boyfriend/Brother,'' ``Penis in the Bread Basket,'' ``Mom Interrupts Us,'' ``Sex in a Dorm''). Perhaps encouraging for people who, in the dated lingo of self-help books, want to get in touch with their feelings. But beyond this, its too-literal and disorganized approach leaves the reader—or the client—guessing.
Pub Date: March 1, 1994
ISBN: 0-449-90901-8
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Ballantine
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 1, 1994
An intimate and provocative glimpse into the lives of adolescent schoolgirls at two West Coast middle schools by journalist Orenstein (formerly managing editor of Mother Jones). Orenstein was motivated by the disturbing findings of a 1990 study from the American Association of University Women. It revealed that girls' self-esteem plummets as they reach adolescence, with a concomitant drop in academic achievement- -especially in math and science. By sixth grade, both boys and girls have learned to equate masculinity with opportunity and assertiveness and femininity with reserve and restraint. In her attempt to delve more deeply into this phenomenon, Orenstein observed and interviewed dozens of young girls inside and outside their classrooms. The resulting narratives are likely to move and vex readers. The classrooms at Weston Middle School ring with the symptoms: Even girls who consider themselves feminists tend to ``recede from class proceedings'' while their male classmates vociferously respond to teachers' questions; girls who are generally outspoken remain silent in the classroom. When probed, they tell Orenstein that they are afraid of having the wrong answer and of being embarrassed. They are not willing to take the risks that boys routinely take. The girls are overly involved with their appearance, with clothes and beauty products, instead of their studies. Sexual desirability becomes the central component of their self-image, with negative feelings often translating themselves into eating disorders. At the Audubon Middle School, with its predominantly minority population, it is apparent that ``the consequences of silence and marginalization for Latinas are especially dire.'' The Latina girls we meet often become gang members and mothers, while school becomes increasingly irrelevant. A comprehensive bibliography and annotated notes enhance Orenstein's ardent and significant exploration of the adolescent roots of key women's issues. (First serial to the New York Times Magazine)
Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1994
ISBN: 0-385-42575-9
Page Count: 384
Publisher: Doubleday
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 1994
While the coming of August is enough to send most psychoanalysts fleeing the needs of their patients for the beach, it appears that not even death can keep the wizened Fromm (On Being Human, 1993, etc.) from dispensing wisdom. Fromm gained renown less for his writings about clinical psychology than for his more contemplative works that fused the insights of psychoanalysis with those of existentialist philosophy to ask—and occasionally answer- -the Big Questions traditionally left to priests, rabbis, and barkeeps. But this posthumous collection focuses on the relationship between analyst and analysand, and its goal is much more modest than that of some of his other books. Fromm is concerned here, it seems, not with building a better world but with building a better shrink.
Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1994
ISBN: 0-8264-0654-8
Page Count: 192
Publisher: Continuum
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 1, 1994
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