Earnest presentation likely to find a secure place in the canon of women’s studies.
A feminist psychotherapist argues assiduously that mothers’ attachment to their children and concern for their safety has been manipulated by society to keep women from full participation in the world outside the home.
Smith, herself the mother of two, draws on her own experiences and those of mothers she has interviewed, as well as the writings of other feminists, to support her gender-inequality thesis in a skillfully written text. Becoming a mother, she points out, means accepting the task of keeping another human being alive and safe, and this creates a heightened sense of vulnerability. She finds in Greek myths and such plays as Iphigenia in Aulis and The Bacchae illustrations of this vulnerability and of the harsh consequences of female rebellion. Smith then turns to perusal of books of advice for mothers, beginning with A Token for Mourners, written by a Puritan minister in 1674, and ending with The Baby Book (1993), by William and Martha Sears, a doctor-nurse/husband-wife team. She traces the emergence of medicine in the 19th century as the source of maternal guidance, reinforced in the 20th century by voices from the world of psychology and psychotherapy. All these counselors, Smith finds, play on mothers’ fears and use threats of child harm as a means of social control. News reports, television dramas, and magazine stories heighten maternal anxieties and feelings of guilt; the marketplace profits by offering products to lessen them. “The world has developed a quiet, elegant, and effective way of controlling women, while maintaining inequality,” says Smith, who urges changes to create political, economic, and social equality. The best mother, she argues, is a free woman who has the opportunity and the support to participate fully both in the larger world and in mothering.
Earnest presentation likely to find a secure place in the canon of women’s studies.Pub Date: Jan. 16, 2003
ISBN: 0-618-06349-8
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Houghton Mifflin
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 2002
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An intriguing approach to identifying and relating to one’s emotions.
An analysis of our emotions and the skills required to understand them.
We all have emotions, but how many of us have the vocabulary to accurately describe our experiences or to understand how our emotions affect the way we act? In this guide to help readers with their emotions, Brackett, the founding director of Yale University’s Center for Emotional Intelligence, presents a five-step method he calls R.U.L.E.R.: We need to recognize our emotions, understand what has caused them, be able to label them with precise terms and descriptions, know how to safely and effectively express them, and be able to regulate them in productive ways. The author walks readers through each step and provides an intriguing tool to use to help identify a specific emotion. Brackett introduces a four-square grid called a Mood Meter, which allows one to define where an emotion falls based on pleasantness and energy. He also uses four colors for each quadrant: yellow for high pleasantness and high energy, red for low pleasantness and high energy, green for high pleasantness and low energy, and blue for low pleasantness and low energy. The idea is to identify where an emotion lies in this grid in order to put the R.U.L.E.R. method to good use. The author’s research is wide-ranging, and his interweaving of his personal story with the data helps make the book less academic and more accessible to general readers. It’s particularly useful for parents and teachers who want to help children learn to handle difficult emotions so that they can thrive rather than be overwhelmed by them. The author’s system will also find use in the workplace. “Emotions are the most powerful force inside the workplace—as they are in every human endeavor,” writes Brackett. “They influence everything from leadership effectiveness to building and maintaining complex relationships, from innovation to customer relations.”
An intriguing approach to identifying and relating to one’s emotions.Pub Date: Sept. 3, 2019
ISBN: 978-1-250-21284-9
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Celadon Books
Review Posted Online: June 22, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 2019
A highly readable account of how solid research and personal testing of self-help techniques saved a couple's marriage after...
Self-help advice and personal reflections on avoiding spousal fights while raising children.
Before her daughter was born, bestselling author Dunn (Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo?: And Other Questions I Wish I Never Had to Ask, 2009, etc.) enjoyed steady work and a happy marriage. However, once she became a mother, there never seemed to be enough time, sleep, and especially help from her husband. Little irritations became monumental obstacles between them, which led to major battles. Consequently, they turned to expensive couples' therapy to help them regain some peace in life. In a combination of memoir and advice that can be found in most couples' therapy self-help books, Dunn provides an inside look at her own vexing issues and the solutions she and her husband used to prevent them from appearing in divorce court. They struggled with age-old battles fought between men and women—e.g., frequency of sex, who does more housework, who should get up with the child in the middle of the night, why women need to have a clean house, why men need more alone time, and many more. What Dunn learned via therapy, talks with other parents, and research was that there is no perfect solution to the many dynamics that surface once couples become parents. But by using time-tested techniques, she and her husband learned to listen, show empathy, and adjust so that their former status as a happy couple could safely and peacefully morph into a happy family. Readers familiar with Dunn's honest and humorous writing will appreciate the behind-the-scenes look at her own semi-messy family life, and those who need guidance through the rough spots can glean advice while being entertained—all without spending lots of money on couples’ therapy.
A highly readable account of how solid research and personal testing of self-help techniques saved a couple's marriage after the birth of their child.Pub Date: March 21, 2017
ISBN: 978-0-316-26710-6
Page Count: 272
Publisher: Little, Brown
Review Posted Online: Jan. 17, 2017
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 1, 2017
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