A funny, satirical, but ultimately affirmative examination of the Lords of the dating world.
Two writers relate their war stories from the fraught dating scene in this guide.
In this collaboration, Averhart and Zimmerman share many of their personal experiences with the various “Lords” in the dating world—each man is used to exemplify a larger group or type. There’s Lord At-Your-Peril, a culprit who can load on his abuse in any number of ways—and about whom the authors have no-nonsense, completely unambiguous advice: run. “The relationship won’t get better,” they warn. “It can’t because it’s not about you.” There’s Lord FOMO (Fear of Missing Out), who openly admits that he’s playing the field and is just interested in dating, not commitment. About this Lord, the authors caution the romantics among their readers: “Many women will date Lord FOMO and say, ‘surely, once he gets to know me, he’ll change his mind. I can win him over.’ Uh, don’t count on it.” There are many others—Lord Contradiction, Lord Self-Absorbed, and so on—and the habits of each are dissected in detail, followed by the authors laying out the lessons that can be learned from dealing with the man. They break up these lessons with “Bloopers,” chapters in which Averhart and Zimmerman tell some of their favorite and most entertaining stories about all corners of the dating world, from apps to heartbreak. Their book is very well illustrated by Steiner in an invitingly cartoonish style, very well designed for easy reading, and, most of all, very knowing and compassionate. The authors stress that their lessons apply to the Ladies on the dating scene as well as the Lords, and the main theme running through the work is one of empowerment. Again and again, the authors assure their readers that they are in control of their own dating lives.
A funny, satirical, but ultimately affirmative examination of the Lords of the dating world.Pub Date: Oct. 1, 2021
ISBN: 978-1-955711-03-6
Page Count: 182
Publisher: Stonebrook Pub.
Review Posted Online: Oct. 1, 2021
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 15, 2021
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.
A noted actor turns to verse: “Poems are a Saturday in the middle of the week.”
McConaughey, author of the gracefully written memoir Greenlights, has been writing poems since his teens, closing with one “written in an Australian bathtub” that reads just as a poem by an 18-year-old (Rimbaud excepted) should read: “Ignorant minds of the fortunate man / Blind of the fate shaping every land.” McConaughey is fearless in his commitment to the rhyme, no matter how slight the result (“Oops, took a quick peek at the sky before I got my glasses, / now I can’t see shit, sure hope this passes”). And, sad to say, the slight is what is most on display throughout, punctuated by some odd koanlike aperçus: “Eating all we can / at the all-we-can-eat buffet, / gives us a 3.8 education / and a 4.2 GPA.” “Never give up your right to do the next right thing. This is how we find our way home.” “Memory never forgets. Even though we do.” The prayer portion of the program is deeply felt, but it’s just as sentimental; only when he writes of life-changing events—a court appearance to file a restraining order against a stalker, his decision to quit smoking weed—do we catch a glimpse of the effortlessly fluent, effortlessly charming McConaughey as exemplified by the David Wooderson (“alright, alright, alright”) of Dazed and Confused. The rest is mostly a soufflé in verse. McConaughey’s heart is very clearly in the right place, but on the whole the book suggests an old saw: Don’t give up your day job.
It’s not Shakespeare, not by a long shot. But at least it’s not James Franco.Pub Date: Sept. 16, 2025
ISBN: 9781984862105
Page Count: 208
Publisher: Crown
Review Posted Online: Aug. 15, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2025
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The Stoics did much better with the much shorter Enchiridion.
A follow-on to the author’s garbled but popular 48 Laws of Power, promising that readers will learn how to win friends and influence people, to say nothing of outfoxing all those “toxic types” out in the world.
Greene (Mastery, 2012, etc.) begins with a big sell, averring that his book “is designed to immerse you in all aspects of human behavior and illuminate its root causes.” To gauge by this fat compendium, human behavior is mostly rotten, a presumption that fits with the author’s neo-Machiavellian program of self-validation and eventual strategic supremacy. The author works to formula: First, state a “law,” such as “confront your dark side” or “know your limits,” the latter of which seems pale compared to the Delphic oracle’s “nothing in excess.” Next, elaborate on that law with what might seem to be as plain as day: “Losing contact with reality, we make irrational decisions. That is why our success often does not last.” One imagines there might be other reasons for the evanescence of glory, but there you go. Finally, spin out a long tutelary yarn, seemingly the longer the better, to shore up the truism—in this case, the cometary rise and fall of one-time Disney CEO Michael Eisner, with the warning, “his fate could easily be yours, albeit most likely on a smaller scale,” which ranks right up there with the fortuneteller’s “I sense that someone you know has died" in orders of probability. It’s enough to inspire a new law: Beware of those who spend too much time telling you what you already know, even when it’s dressed up in fresh-sounding terms. “Continually mix the visceral with the analytic” is the language of a consultant’s report, more important-sounding than “go with your gut but use your head, too.”
The Stoics did much better with the much shorter Enchiridion.Pub Date: Oct. 23, 2018
ISBN: 978-0-525-42814-5
Page Count: 580
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: July 30, 2018
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2018
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