A cleareyed call to reshape emotional responses to stress and disappointment.
A game plan to stop being your own worst enemy.
At the beginning of her nonfiction debut, Hardis draws on her personal story as the divorced mother of three to illustrate how people create their own obstacles to well-being. “The belief that you can do hard things is called self-efficacy,” she writes, “and mine, post-divorce, was less than zero.” In these pages, she details strategies for readers to treat themselves more compassionately. She urges them to rethink an all-or-nothing approach to success, hone compassion skills, stop focusing so single-mindedly on outcomes over processes, and so on. Hardis’ guide stresses the value of letting ideas or situations breathe and taking the time to observe how they develop. Practicing patience sometimes yields an answer, even if that answer is to ignore something unpleasant rather than change it. “When we encounter distress or discomfort, it’s intuitive to try to do something to either avoid it or eradicate it in some way,” she writes. “As you’ll learn, however, that only makes it stronger and more persistent.” Writing with clarity and empathy, she argues for the importance of being not so much emotionally available as emotionally “allowable,” better skilled at recognizing and handling “big feelings,” even when they’re negative. In encouraging but forceful prose, Hardis invites the reader to analyze their own reactions and behaviors, for example: When she’s worried about her kids, her behavior is to clean the house—and its function is to decrease worry. “Don’t overthink it, and don’t judge it; simply observe it.” There’s plenty of similarly sound advice in these pages for readers to ponder.
A cleareyed call to reshape emotional responses to stress and disappointment.Pub Date: Aug. 24, 2023
ISBN: 9798987361252
Page Count: 232
Publisher: N/A
Review Posted Online: Sept. 8, 2023
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
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A virtuoso performance and an ode to an undervalued medium created by two talented artists.
The veteran actor, comedian, and banjo player teams up with the acclaimed illustrator to create a unique book of cartoons that communicates their personalities.
Martin, also a prolific author, has always been intrigued by the cartoons strewn throughout the pages of the New Yorker. So when he was presented with the opportunity to work with Bliss, who has been a staff cartoonist at the magazine since 1997, he seized the moment. “The idea of a one-panel image with or without a caption mystified me,” he writes. “I felt like, yeah, sometimes I’m funny, but there are these other weird freaks who are actually funny.” Once the duo agreed to work together, they established their creative process, which consisted of working forward and backward: “Forwards was me conceiving of several cartoon images and captions, and Harry would select his favorites; backwards was Harry sending me sketched or fully drawn cartoons for dialogue or banners.” Sometimes, he writes, “the perfect joke occurs two seconds before deadline.” There are several cartoons depicting this method, including a humorous multipanel piece highlighting their first meeting called “They Meet,” in which Martin thinks to himself, “He’ll never be able to translate my delicate and finely honed droll notions.” In the next panel, Bliss thinks, “I’m sure he won’t understand that the comic art form is way more subtle than his blunt-force humor.” The team collaborated for a year and created 150 cartoons featuring an array of topics, “from dogs and cats to outer space and art museums.” A witty creation of a bovine family sitting down to a gourmet meal and one of Dumbo getting his comeuppance highlight the duo’s comedic talent. What also makes this project successful is the team’s keen understanding of human behavior as viewed through their unconventional comedic minds.
A virtuoso performance and an ode to an undervalued medium created by two talented artists.Pub Date: Nov. 17, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-250-26289-9
Page Count: 272
Publisher: Celadon Books
Review Posted Online: Aug. 30, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 15, 2020
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Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should...
Greene (The 33 Strategies of War, 2007, etc.) believes that genius can be learned if we pay attention and reject social conformity.
The author suggests that our emergence as a species with stereoscopic, frontal vision and sophisticated hand-eye coordination gave us an advantage over earlier humans and primates because it allowed us to contemplate a situation and ponder alternatives for action. This, along with the advantages conferred by mirror neurons, which allow us to intuit what others may be thinking, contributed to our ability to learn, pass on inventions to future generations and improve our problem-solving ability. Throughout most of human history, we were hunter-gatherers, and our brains are engineered accordingly. The author has a jaundiced view of our modern technological society, which, he writes, encourages quick, rash judgments. We fail to spend the time needed to develop thorough mastery of a subject. Greene writes that every human is “born unique,” with specific potential that we can develop if we listen to our inner voice. He offers many interesting but tendentious examples to illustrate his theory, including Einstein, Darwin, Mozart and Temple Grandin. In the case of Darwin, Greene ignores the formative intellectual influences that shaped his thought, including the discovery of geological evolution with which he was familiar before his famous voyage. The author uses Grandin's struggle to overcome autistic social handicaps as a model for the necessity for everyone to create a deceptive social mask.
Readers unfamiliar with the anecdotal material Greene presents may find interesting avenues to pursue, but they should beware of the author's quirky, sometimes misleading brush-stroke characterizations.Pub Date: Nov. 13, 2012
ISBN: 978-0-670-02496-4
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: Sept. 12, 2012
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 1, 2012
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