AT MY FATHER'S WEDDING by John Lee

AT MY FATHER'S WEDDING

Reclaiming Our True Masculinity

KIRKUS REVIEW

 Further exploration of the new masculinity, this time by men's workshop leader Lee. Lee's basic assumption is that sons whose fathers were not there for them--physically, emotionally, or spiritually--suffer a devastating loss. He writes with deep feeling of his own sense of loss and his long struggle to accept his father's abandonment. Lee's goal is to encourage and help other men to do the same, for he believes that only by grieving the loss of their fathers can men heal themselves and arrive at a clear understanding of their true masculinity. As a leader in the growing men's movement, Lee draws on his own experiences and those of participants in the men's gatherings and workshops he conducts. For women and for those men who have never attended a men's gathering, his revelations of what goes on at them--dancing, drumming, performing rituals, talking, listening, laughing, crying, and embracing--may be astonishing, alluring, or possibly alarming. Section titles--``The Wound,'' ``The Journey,'' ``The Healing,'' ``The Future''--suggest a structure that the book does not really have. Lee's writing resists shaping into architectural blocks; it gushes and winds like a river, forming eddies and coming back on itself from time to time. For those willing to go with the flow, the trip can be a rewarding one; those looking for specific answers may be disappointed. Includes exercises for ``letting go of Dad,'' lists of suggested books, magazines, and audiocassettes, and a directory of men's centers across the country. Will appeal primarily to men already involved in the men's movement and secondarily to women who want to understand them.

Pub Date: Oct. 15th, 1991
ISBN: 0-553-07730-9
Page count: 224pp
Publisher: Bantam
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Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1st, 1991




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