COMPELLING PEOPLE by John Neffinger

COMPELLING PEOPLE

The Hidden Qualities that Make Us Influential

KIRKUS REVIEW

The principals of a communications firm reveal the strategies they use to coach corporate and political clients.

Neffinger and Kohut aim to help people become aware of the ways that they communicate nonverbally, through tone of voice and posture, and improve their ability to read the body language of others. There is no inherent contradiction in simultaneously projecting warmth and strength, they argue. Compelling individuals such as Oprah Winfrey, Bill Clinton and the Dalai Lama project an air of knowing what they are doing and having other peoples’ best interests at heart; as a result, “we trust them and find them persuasive.” Refreshingly, the authors recognize these as fundamental issues of character and emphatically reject any attempt to fake them. They do not advocate behavior modification and gimmicks to foster self-affirmation. Instead, they look to models such as Martin Luther King to reinforce their message, quoting his 1967 comment: “One of the great problems of history is that the concepts of love and power have usually been contrasted as opposites…power without love is reckless and abusive...love without power is sentimental and anemic.” By consciously maintaining “a level brow, a focused gaze and a low vocal pitch,” leaning in toward a person or maintaining distance, we give substance to the image we hope to project. That said, the authors warn that nonverbal cues cannot compensate for deceitful aims. On the other hand, adopting good posture and greeting the day with a smile can not only evoke a positive response in others, but also elevate the mood of the smiler. This contention, like others in this well-researched book, is backed up by citations from psychologists and other authorities.

An attractive, nuanced addition to the self-help shelf.

Pub Date: Aug. 15th, 2013
ISBN: 978-1-59463-101-6
Page count: 304pp
Publisher: Hudson Street/Penguin
Review Posted Online:
Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 15th, 2013




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