A practical blueprint for fixing marriages.

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LOVE UNDER REPAIR

HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE AND SURVIVE COUPLES THERAPY

A licensed clinical social worker and marriage counselor offers a helpful guide on “attachment-based” couples’ therapy and how to find the right therapist.

In this no-nonsense marriage repair manual, debut author Miller draws on his own marriage and years of counseling others. According to Miller, “Choosing the wrong kind of therapy…is the fastest way to send your relationship into a downward spiral.” However, Miller offers good news: if you choose the right therapist and the best therapy for your needs, “you and your partner stand a good chance of benefitting tremendously.” The author examines the experiences of real couples during counseling via various therapeutic approaches. For example, he discusses Jack and Irene’s frustration during their initial round of counseling. The couple chose a therapist practicing cognitive behavioral therapy, which minimizes the role of feelings in a relationship. But after hitting a wall, Jack and Irene came to Miller and found success with his attachment-based therapy. According to Miller, CBT often fails because it tries to fix aspects of a couple’s relationship without “understanding the root cause of their problems.” Trying to ignore feelings or fake an attachment are poor coping techniques because, he writes, “New science about the brain says that whether we recognize it consciously or not, feelings are always involved in our behavior.” In Chapter 3, Miller lays out the fundamentals of attachment-based couples’ therapy and devotes a chapter each to the three principal methodologies: Imago, Gottman Method, and Emotionally Focused Therapy. The book’s final section addresses practical issues, including the cost of therapy, how to find the right therapist, and the value of premarital counseling, sex therapy, and relationship coaching. Interested readers will find that Miller’s easy-to-read guide is well-organized and practical. Couples looking to hit the ground running will appreciate that his advice is mostly devoid of counseling jargon. He makes it easy to understand the various therapeutic techniques by allowing readers to listen in on dialogue between counselor and couple sprinkled with hopeful notes of encouragement.

A practical blueprint for fixing marriages.

Pub Date: Feb. 2, 2015

ISBN: 978-0-9909169-3-2

Page Count: 304

Publisher: Love Good Press

Review Posted Online: May 24, 2015

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 2015

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Stricter than, say, Bergen Evans or W3 ("disinterested" means impartial — period), Strunk is in the last analysis...

THE ELEMENTS OF STYLE

50TH ANNIVERSARY EDITION

Privately published by Strunk of Cornell in 1918 and revised by his student E. B. White in 1959, that "little book" is back again with more White updatings.

Stricter than, say, Bergen Evans or W3 ("disinterested" means impartial — period), Strunk is in the last analysis (whoops — "A bankrupt expression") a unique guide (which means "without like or equal").

Pub Date: May 15, 1972

ISBN: 0205632645

Page Count: 105

Publisher: Macmillan

Review Posted Online: Oct. 28, 2011

Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 1972

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Analyzing his craft, a careful craftsman urges with Thoreauvian conviction that writers should simplify, simplify, simplify.

SEVERAL SHORT SENTENCES ABOUT WRITING

New York Times columnist and editorial board member delivers a slim book for aspiring writers, offering saws and sense, wisdom and waggery, biases and biting sarcasm.

Klinkenborg (Timothy; or, Notes of an Abject Reptile, 2006), who’s taught for decades, endeavors to keep things simple in his prose, and he urges other writers to do the same. (Note: He despises abuses of the word as, as he continually reminds readers.) In the early sections, the author ignores traditional paragraphing so that the text resembles a long free-verse poem. He urges readers to use short, clear sentences and to make sure each one is healthy before moving on; notes that it’s acceptable to start sentences with and and but; sees benefits in diagramming sentences; stresses that all writing is revision; periodically blasts the formulaic writing that many (most?) students learn in school; argues that knowing where you’re headed before you begin might be good for a vacation, but not for a piece of writing; and believes that writers must trust readers more, and trust themselves. Most of Klinkenborg’s advice is neither radical nor especially profound (“Turn to the poets. / Learn from them”), and the text suffers from a corrosive fallacy: that if his strategies work for him they will work for all. The final fifth of the text includes some passages from writers he admires (McPhee, Oates, Cheever) and some of his students’ awkward sentences, which he treats analytically but sometimes with a surprising sarcasm that veers near meanness. He includes examples of students’ dangling modifiers, malapropisms, errors of pronoun agreement, wordiness and other mistakes.

Analyzing his craft, a careful craftsman urges with Thoreauvian conviction that writers should simplify, simplify, simplify.

Pub Date: Aug. 7, 2012

ISBN: 978-0-307-26634-7

Page Count: 224

Publisher: Knopf

Review Posted Online: May 14, 2012

Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 15, 2012

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