A primer on ``Sex Talk Differences'' by Hollywood guru Glass (Say it Right, 1991, etc.—not reviewed), offering practical advice on how to succeed in love and business by overcoming gender traits in conversation. Opening with a quiz to discredit sexual clichÇs such as women's being more intuitional than men, Glass (who coached Dustin Hoffman for his role as a woman in Tootsie) goes on to establish 105 new ones—divided into ``Body Language'' (men gesture broadly, fingers together; women gesture close to their bodies, fingers curled or apart); ``Facial Language'' (men cock their heads, frown, and squint; women duck their heads, smile, and nod); ``Speech and Voice Patterns'' (men mumble and interrupt; women are precise and allow interruptions); and ``Behavioral Pattern Differences'' (men are analytical, women emotional; men yell, women cry). In personal, social, and business relationships, Glass says, people should find out what appeals to the opposite sex and do it: Men should use more terms of endearment; women should learn to talk about ``what men enjoy''—sports, news, cars, art, and music. Some of the author's advice involves basic social skills (avoid cursing, dirty jokes, teasing, nagging) and some is basic psychology (women should learn to express anger and men should learn to ask for help). Glass offers help to herself at book's end with a menu of the services she provides—including videos, tapes, and telephone evaluations- -and concludes with a surprisingly academic bibliography that mentions the far more interesting, useful, and subtle You Just Don't Understand (1990), by Deborah Tannen. Glass's oversimplified analysis disregards occupational, generational, regional, racial, educational, economic, and class differences. Might prove of use, though, if you were preparing to play a transvestite in a movie.
Pub Date: July 17, 1992
ISBN: 0-399-51737-5
Page Count: 256
Publisher: Putnam
Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 1992
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Title notwithstanding, this latest from the National Book Award–winning author is no guidebook to getting woke.
In fact, the word “woke” appears nowhere within its pages. Rather, it is a combination memoir and extension of Atlantic columnist Kendi’s towering Stamped From the Beginning (2016) that leads readers through a taxonomy of racist thought to anti-racist action. Never wavering from the thesis introduced in his previous book, that “racism is a powerful collection of racist policies that lead to racial inequity and are substantiated by racist ideas,” the author posits a seemingly simple binary: “Antiracism is a powerful collection of antiracist policies that lead to racial equity and are substantiated by antiracist ideas.” The author, founding director of American University’s Antiracist Research and Policy Center, chronicles how he grew from a childhood steeped in black liberation Christianity to his doctoral studies, identifying and dispelling the layers of racist thought under which he had operated. “Internalized racism,” he writes, “is the real Black on Black Crime.” Kendi methodically examines racism through numerous lenses: power, biology, ethnicity, body, culture, and so forth, all the way to the intersectional constructs of gender racism and queer racism (the only section of the book that feels rushed). Each chapter examines one facet of racism, the authorial camera alternately zooming in on an episode from Kendi’s life that exemplifies it—e.g., as a teen, he wore light-colored contact lenses, wanting “to be Black but…not…to look Black”—and then panning to the history that informs it (the antebellum hierarchy that valued light skin over dark). The author then reframes those received ideas with inexorable logic: “Either racist policy or Black inferiority explains why White people are wealthier, healthier, and more powerful than Black people today.” If Kendi is justifiably hard on America, he’s just as hard on himself. When he began college, “anti-Black racist ideas covered my freshman eyes like my orange contacts.” This unsparing honesty helps readers, both white and people of color, navigate this difficult intellectual territory.
Not an easy read but an essential one.Pub Date: Aug. 13, 2019
ISBN: 978-0-525-50928-8
Page Count: 320
Publisher: One World/Random House
Review Posted Online: April 28, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 15, 2019
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The chief White House and Washington correspondent for ABC provides a ringside seat to a disaster-ridden Oval Office.
It is Karl to whom we owe the current popularity of a learned Latin term. Questioning chief of staff Mick Mulvaney, he followed up a perhaps inadvertently honest response on the matter of Ukrainian intervention in the electoral campaign by saying, “What you just described is a quid pro quo.” Mulvaney’s reply: “Get over it.” Karl, who has been covering Trump for decades and knows which buttons to push and which to avoid, is not inclined to get over it: He rightly points out that a reporter today “faces a president who seems to have no appreciation or understanding of the First Amendment and the role of a free press in American democracy.” Yet even against a bellicose, untruthful leader, he adds, the press “is not the opposition party.” The author, who keeps his eye on the subject and not in the mirror, writes of Trump’s ability to stage situations, as when he once called Trump out, at an event, for misrepresenting poll results and Trump waited until the camera was off before exploding, “Fucking nasty guy!”—then finished up the interview as if nothing had happened. Trump and his inner circle are also, by Karl’s account, masters of timing, matching negative news such as the revelation that Russia had interfered in the 2016 election with distractions away from Trump—in this case, by pushing hard on the WikiLeaks emails from the Democratic campaign, news of which arrived at the same time. That isn’t to say that they manage people or the nation well; one of the more damning stories in a book full of them concerns former Homeland Security head Kirstjen Nielsen, cut off at the knees even while trying to do Trump’s bidding.
No one’s mind will be changed by Karl’s book, but it’s a valuable report from the scene of an ongoing train wreck.Pub Date: March 31, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-5247-4562-2
Page Count: 368
Publisher: Dutton
Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020
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