A life coach makes the case to balance feminine and masculine energy for better connections with others and oneself in this debut self-help guide.
The author, in an increasingly sexless marriage with “Mr. Beige,” came to realize that “while my masculine energy served me extremely well in my business life, it did not really serve me in my personal life.” In this guide, she outlines particularly for women (although she notes that her concepts apply to both sexes) the need to consciously balance and harness one’s male and female energies to attract a desired romantic and sexual partner. Women should be aware they’ll likely need to have “polarity” of energies with a man, that “carrying…masculine energy into the quest to find a loving relationship will make it virtually impossible for them to attract a masculine man.” She details the distinctions of masculine and feminine energy, at one point noting, “Masculine energy focuses on doing, feminine energy is all about being and feeling.” She offers tips for women on how to lead with their feminine energies while trying to meet a romantic partner (including to be joyful, positive, and vulnerable) and how to handle the balancing act required to maintain a relationship and in deciding to end one. She cautions women against assuming a man’s preoccupation means problems with the relationship instead of perhaps another concern on his mind. She concludes her useful commentary with the contention that greater self-awareness of one’s preferences and tendencies in these energies will aid in the realization of one’s “true self.” B., a successful entrepreneur who’s also certified in neurolinguistic programming (NLP) and as a life coach, brings a relatable if not always fully explained personal story (what exactly is her relationship status with her new “Mr. Big”?) in offering advice to women struggling to find success in their personal lives. While her perspective may seem antifeminist at times, she makes a convincing argument for “polarity” in relationships and offers many helpful cognitive exercises, including to leverage NLP-type “anchors” of clenching one’s left or right fist to consciously tap into and assert female or male energy as the situation warrants.
An intriguing prescription and road map for relationship success.