Bold, insightful wisdom from a leading proponent of self-expression.
A personal growth manual on the importance of speaking up for oneself, particularly regarding matters of identity.
Building on the success of her Rants & Randomness podcast and first book, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual (2017), Ajayi Jones, “a proud Nigerian woman,” pulls no punches in this well-organized guidebook. She asserts that the core basis of considering oneself a professional troublemaker involves an understanding that “chaos can come from being honest and authentic and going against the tide,” and her book demands that readers confront doubts and move toward fearlessness. The author’s goal is to get readers to communicate the wants and needs that continually hold them back from achieving everything from simple wishes to lifelong dreams. Split into three action-item sections—Be, Say, and Do—the guide shows how to work on internal issues before expanding outward, cultivating one’s voice to speak up for the greater good, and progressing from mere words to tangible movements that make a bigger difference. Ajayi Jones personalizes the narrative by incorporating anecdotes from her beloved grandmother (“the definition of boisterous”), whose life epitomized the lesson of “living beyond your fears.” The author also includes exercises that show how to maximize personal core values; the power of being an audacious dreamer (“dreaming is a gesture of courage in itself”); and the importance of self-exploration, clarity, and empowerment. Throughout, Ajayi Jones uses examples from her own random instances of impulsiveness to vividly illustrate points about learning from mistakes, setting boundaries, owning your own behavioral fumbles, and being independently fierce. Displaying a unique blend of tough love and compassionate advice, the author stresses that while embodying the kind of self-confidence she advocates may be perceived as arrogance, readers should live unapologetically and persistently strive for—not fear—success.
Bold, insightful wisdom from a leading proponent of self-expression.Pub Date: March 2, 2021
ISBN: 978-1-984881-90-8
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Penguin Life
Review Posted Online: Feb. 4, 2021
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2021
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This moving, potent testament might have been titled “Black Lives Matter.” Or: “An American Tragedy.”
The powerful story of a father’s past and a son’s future.
Atlantic senior writer Coates (The Beautiful Struggle: A Father, Two Sons, and an Unlikely Road to Manhood, 2008) offers this eloquent memoir as a letter to his teenage son, bearing witness to his own experiences and conveying passionate hopes for his son’s life. “I am wounded,” he writes. “I am marked by old codes, which shielded me in one world and then chained me in the next.” Coates grew up in the tough neighborhood of West Baltimore, beaten into obedience by his father. “I was a capable boy, intelligent and well-liked,” he remembers, “but powerfully afraid.” His life changed dramatically at Howard University, where his father taught and from which several siblings graduated. Howard, he writes, “had always been one of the most critical gathering posts for black people.” He calls it The Mecca, and its faculty and his fellow students expanded his horizons, helping him to understand “that the black world was its own thing, more than a photo-negative of the people who believe they are white.” Coates refers repeatedly to whites’ insistence on their exclusive racial identity; he realizes now “that nothing so essentialist as race” divides people, but rather “the actual injury done by people intent on naming us, intent on believing that what they have named matters more than anything we could ever actually do.” After he married, the author’s world widened again in New York, and later in Paris, where he finally felt extricated from white America’s exploitative, consumerist dreams. He came to understand that “race” does not fully explain “the breach between the world and me,” yet race exerts a crucial force, and young blacks like his son are vulnerable and endangered by “majoritarian bandits.” Coates desperately wants his son to be able to live “apart from fear—even apart from me.”
This moving, potent testament might have been titled “Black Lives Matter.” Or: “An American Tragedy.”Pub Date: July 8, 2015
ISBN: 978-0-8129-9354-7
Page Count: 176
Publisher: Spiegel & Grau
Review Posted Online: May 5, 2015
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 2015
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A fierce, penetrating, and empowering call for change.
Artist and activist Vaid-Menon demonstrates how the normativity of the gender binary represses creativity and inflicts physical and emotional violence.
The author, whose parents emigrated from India, writes about how enforcement of the gender binary begins before birth and affects people in all stages of life, with people of color being especially vulnerable due to Western conceptions of gender as binary. Gender assignments create a narrative for how a person should behave, what they are allowed to like or wear, and how they express themself. Punishment of nonconformity leads to an inseparable link between gender and shame. Vaid-Menon challenges familiar arguments against gender nonconformity, breaking them down into four categories—dismissal, inconvenience, biology, and the slippery slope (fear of the consequences of acceptance). Headers in bold font create an accessible navigation experience from one analysis to the next. The prose maintains a conversational tone that feels as intimate and vulnerable as talking with a best friend. At the same time, the author's turns of phrase in moments of deep insight ring with precision and poetry. In one reflection, they write, “the most lethal part of the human body is not the fist; it is the eye. What people see and how people see it has everything to do with power.” While this short essay speaks honestly of pain and injustice, it concludes with encouragement and an invitation into a future that celebrates transformation.
A fierce, penetrating, and empowering call for change. (writing prompt) (Nonfiction. 14-adult)Pub Date: June 2, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-593-09465-5
Page Count: 64
Publisher: Penguin Workshop
Review Posted Online: March 14, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: April 1, 2020
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