A thoughtful, impassioned look at mothers and mothering.
How the reality of motherhood contrasts sharply with our culture's prevailing creation myth.
In America, writes Lenz, “to be a mother is to become a myth”—a white woman of purity and perfection, placed atop a pedestal, selflessly devoted to procreation and child care. Absent from this myth are obese, incarcerated, black, brown, Native, or queer mothers, whose images do not fit with “the canonization of a certain type of femininity.” Drawing on stories by and about a diversity of mothers, medical and sociological research, women’s history, feminist theory, and her own vividly rendered experiences, Lenz offers a shrewd debunking of the myth of motherhood and a perceptive examination of “the violence of the term mother.” Raised in an Evangelical family and, until recently, married to a religious spouse, Lenz had imbibed the message that pregnancy offered “the promise of fulfillment.” No one intimated that if she miscarried, she would be deemed culpable; that while pregnant, everything she did, ate, or drank would be scrutinized; that she might feel depressed during and after pregnancy; that the birth itself would be highly medicalized. To be a mother, she came to realize, “is to occupy a political space where your body is fought over and you feel powerless to control the conversation that rages around you.” That conversation has been dominated by men—politicians who make laws regulating abortion and family leave and doctors who outlawed midwives, urging women to give birth in hospitals, where, in the early 20th century, “infections raged” and doctors ruled. “The history of birth,” writes the author, “is the story of men and medicine slowly taking over control of the female body” with episiotomies, sedatives, forceps, and C-sections. Working on this book, Lenz admits, changed how she sees herself as a mother and made her realize “how alone we all are.”
A thoughtful, impassioned look at mothers and mothering.Pub Date: Aug. 11, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-5417-6283-1
Page Count: 240
Publisher: Bold Type Books
Review Posted Online: May 29, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 15, 2020
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A moving meditation on mortality by a gifted writer whose dual perspectives of physician and patient provide a singular...
A neurosurgeon with a passion for literature tragically finds his perfect subject after his diagnosis of terminal lung cancer.
Writing isn’t brain surgery, but it’s rare when someone adept at the latter is also so accomplished at the former. Searching for meaning and purpose in his life, Kalanithi pursued a doctorate in literature and had felt certain that he wouldn’t enter the field of medicine, in which his father and other members of his family excelled. “But I couldn’t let go of the question,” he writes, after realizing that his goals “didn’t quite fit in an English department.” “Where did biology, morality, literature and philosophy intersect?” So he decided to set aside his doctoral dissertation and belatedly prepare for medical school, which “would allow me a chance to find answers that are not in books, to find a different sort of sublime, to forge relationships with the suffering, and to keep following the question of what makes human life meaningful, even in the face of death and decay.” The author’s empathy undoubtedly made him an exceptional doctor, and the precision of his prose—as well as the moral purpose underscoring it—suggests that he could have written a good book on any subject he chose. Part of what makes this book so essential is the fact that it was written under a death sentence following the diagnosis that upended his life, just as he was preparing to end his residency and attract offers at the top of his profession. Kalanithi learned he might have 10 years to live or perhaps five. Should he return to neurosurgery (he could and did), or should he write (he also did)? Should he and his wife have a baby? They did, eight months before he died, which was less than two years after the original diagnosis. “The fact of death is unsettling,” he understates. “Yet there is no other way to live.”
A moving meditation on mortality by a gifted writer whose dual perspectives of physician and patient provide a singular clarity.Pub Date: Jan. 19, 2016
ISBN: 978-0-8129-8840-6
Page Count: 248
Publisher: Random House
Review Posted Online: Sept. 29, 2015
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 2015
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A philosophically rich critique of state violence and mass apathy.
An Egyptian Canadian journalist writes searchingly of this time of war.
“Rules, conventions, morals, reality itself: all exist so long as their existence is convenient to the preservation of power.” So writes El Akkad, who goes on to state that one of the demands of modern power is that those subject to it must imagine that some group of people somewhere are not fully human. El Akkad’s pointed example is Gaza, the current destruction of which, he writes, is causing millions of people around the world to examine the supposedly rules-governed, democratic West and declare, “I want nothing to do with this.” El Akkad, author of the novel American War (2017), discerns hypocrisy and racism in the West’s defense of Ukraine and what he views as indifference toward the Palestinian people. No stranger to war zones himself—El Akkad was a correspondent in Afghanistan and Iraq—he writes with grim matter-of-factness about murdered children, famine, and the deliberate targeting of civilians. With no love for Zionism lost, he offers an equally harsh critique of Hamas, yet another one of the “entities obsessed with violence as an ethos, brutal in their treatment of minority groups who in their view should not exist, and self-decreed to be the true protectors of an entire religion.” Taking a global view, El Akkad, who lives in the U.S., finds almost every government and society wanting, and not least those, he says, that turn away and pretend not to know, behavior that we’ve seen before and that, in the spirit of his title, will one day be explained away until, in the end, it comes down to “a quiet unheard reckoning in the winter of life between the one who said nothing, did nothing, and their own soul.”
A philosophically rich critique of state violence and mass apathy.Pub Date: Feb. 25, 2025
ISBN: 9780593804148
Page Count: 224
Publisher: Knopf
Review Posted Online: Dec. 14, 2024
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2025
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