A transcript of an extended conversation between a husband and wife about their theories on what makes for the best sex, including descriptions of specific acts and emotional exercises.
Debut authors Jeff and Sarah Harris were virgins on their wedding night and have learned everything they know about great sex from each other. Married for 20-plus years, the couple stresses that sex should only occur within marriage and that nonmarital sex, including masturbation, should be avoided. The authors contend that trust is the hottest aphrodisiac and that this trust can only be found within the context of a committed, heterosexual marriage (they don’t “see eye to eye with the homosexual community”). Presented as a dialogue between the couple, the book comprises two major parts: “The Principles” and “The Routines.” The Principles includes recommendations to communicate verbally, practice forgiveness, and touch nonsexually throughout the day. The Routines is a series of explicit discussions of the Harrises preferred sexual practices, including anal sex and various oral-sex techniques. The information is presented straightforwardly and nonerotically. Describing the 69 position, for example, Sarah Harris says: “In this position, I could learn to kiss and give proper fellatio while Jeff was busy kissing my crotch.” Joy of Sex it isn’t, but that’s not the point of the book. For Christian couples seeking real, uncensored sex and relationship advice, the book is an intimate dispensary of one couple’s favorite sexual acts, along with the emotional work they’ve done to sustain their marriage. They make the unusual claim that going to bed angry and getting some sleep is sometimes better than attempting to solve the entire fight before bedtime and waking up exhausted. Obviously, they have found what works for them. While they aren’t therapists, psychologists, or recognized sex experts, the authors’ advice provides a narrow but genuine take on conjugal happiness.
May appeal to a straight, Christian audience who haven’t had sex before marriage.