JUST LIKE FAMILY

AN INTIMATE LOOK AT NANNIES, THE PARENTS THEY WORK FOR, AND THE CHILDREN THEY LOVE

The rotating format offers little in the way of analysis and very few conclusions, but the author offers valid testimony for...

A sympathetic look at the lives and work of three nannies.

When Blaine quit her office job to become a nanny, hoping it would allow her more time to make use of her MFA, she lasted only six months. The challenges of being intimately involved with a family without being part of it inspired her to give voice to women who are “paid by the hour to love.” The author’s case studies follow Claudia, a Caribbean immigrant in New York working to send money home; Vivian, a Nanny of the Year award winner whose goal is to “educate the public on the importance of nannies and set standards for the industry;” and Kim, a compassionate divorcée lending her expertise in newborns to a wealthy couple in Austin, Texas. Blaine gives equal attention to the women's personal and professional lives. Claudia left her infant son to bring her family out of poverty and was shocked when she realized the streets of New York weren't paved with gold. Her employer bailed her out when she faced eviction, but admitted to wishing that Claudia would be more proactive in her kids' upbringing. Vivian fulfilled that role in a borderline overbearing way, considering herself a third parent and the primary disciplinarian. Despite battling self-esteem issues from abusive relationships and obesity, Vivian is a confidently outspoken board member of the International Nanny Association. She clashed with the Domestic Workers United when they sought legislation to raise the minimum wage; she believed nannies' salaries should be merit-based. Kim endured two failed marriages and three miscarriages, then found herself living with a domineering employer who treated her like a servant. Nearly all of Blaine’s examples are characterized by demanding fathers, from whom the nannies seek to protect their charges, and understanding mothers struggling to balance work and family.

The rotating format offers little in the way of analysis and very few conclusions, but the author offers valid testimony for the specific concerns of women in an industry increasingly in the spotlight.

Pub Date: June 9, 2009

ISBN: 978-0-15-101051-6

Page Count: 336

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 15, 2009

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BETWEEN THE WORLD AND ME

NOTES ON THE FIRST 150 YEARS IN AMERICA

This moving, potent testament might have been titled “Black Lives Matter.” Or: “An American Tragedy.”

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The powerful story of a father’s past and a son’s future.

Atlantic senior writer Coates (The Beautiful Struggle: A Father, Two Sons, and an Unlikely Road to Manhood, 2008) offers this eloquent memoir as a letter to his teenage son, bearing witness to his own experiences and conveying passionate hopes for his son’s life. “I am wounded,” he writes. “I am marked by old codes, which shielded me in one world and then chained me in the next.” Coates grew up in the tough neighborhood of West Baltimore, beaten into obedience by his father. “I was a capable boy, intelligent and well-liked,” he remembers, “but powerfully afraid.” His life changed dramatically at Howard University, where his father taught and from which several siblings graduated. Howard, he writes, “had always been one of the most critical gathering posts for black people.” He calls it The Mecca, and its faculty and his fellow students expanded his horizons, helping him to understand “that the black world was its own thing, more than a photo-negative of the people who believe they are white.” Coates refers repeatedly to whites’ insistence on their exclusive racial identity; he realizes now “that nothing so essentialist as race” divides people, but rather “the actual injury done by people intent on naming us, intent on believing that what they have named matters more than anything we could ever actually do.” After he married, the author’s world widened again in New York, and later in Paris, where he finally felt extricated from white America’s exploitative, consumerist dreams. He came to understand that “race” does not fully explain “the breach between the world and me,” yet race exerts a crucial force, and young blacks like his son are vulnerable and endangered by “majoritarian bandits.” Coates desperately wants his son to be able to live “apart from fear—even apart from me.”

This moving, potent testament might have been titled “Black Lives Matter.” Or: “An American Tragedy.”

Pub Date: July 8, 2015

ISBN: 978-0-8129-9354-7

Page Count: 176

Publisher: Spiegel & Grau

Review Posted Online: May 5, 2015

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 2015

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WHEN BREATH BECOMES AIR

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A neurosurgeon with a passion for literature tragically finds his perfect subject after his diagnosis of terminal lung cancer.

Writing isn’t brain surgery, but it’s rare when someone adept at the latter is also so accomplished at the former. Searching for meaning and purpose in his life, Kalanithi pursued a doctorate in literature and had felt certain that he wouldn’t enter the field of medicine, in which his father and other members of his family excelled. “But I couldn’t let go of the question,” he writes, after realizing that his goals “didn’t quite fit in an English department.” “Where did biology, morality, literature and philosophy intersect?” So he decided to set aside his doctoral dissertation and belatedly prepare for medical school, which “would allow me a chance to find answers that are not in books, to find a different sort of sublime, to forge relationships with the suffering, and to keep following the question of what makes human life meaningful, even in the face of death and decay.” The author’s empathy undoubtedly made him an exceptional doctor, and the precision of his prose—as well as the moral purpose underscoring it—suggests that he could have written a good book on any subject he chose. Part of what makes this book so essential is the fact that it was written under a death sentence following the diagnosis that upended his life, just as he was preparing to end his residency and attract offers at the top of his profession. Kalanithi learned he might have 10 years to live or perhaps five. Should he return to neurosurgery (he could and did), or should he write (he also did)? Should he and his wife have a baby? They did, eight months before he died, which was less than two years after the original diagnosis. “The fact of death is unsettling,” he understates. “Yet there is no other way to live.”

A moving meditation on mortality by a gifted writer whose dual perspectives of physician and patient provide a singular clarity.

Pub Date: Jan. 19, 2016

ISBN: 978-0-8129-8840-6

Page Count: 248

Publisher: Random House

Review Posted Online: Sept. 29, 2015

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 2015

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