An earnest look at the ways Covid-19 has complicated the grieving process.
Noe reflects on the difficulties of mourning during the pandemic in this nonfiction book on the nature of grief.
The loss of a good friend is always difficult; during the Covid-19 pandemic, when the normal rituals of mourning were unavailable, such a loss could be especially so. “COVID has upended the way we grieve,” writes the author. “And at a time when draconian limits were placed on family members, the friends left behind found themselves even more restricted from comforting and grieving as they normally would” be. Though Covid-19 itself was responsible for many premature deaths, most of the 16 friends Noe lost over the course of the pandemic died from unrelated diseases. In most instances, health and travel restrictions prevented her from attending the funerals. In this book, the author ruminates on the peculiarities of grief in the time of Covid-19, comparing it to the early days of AIDS, a period during which Noe also buried many friends. Along the way, she celebrates some of the people she lost, documents how people in America acclimated to the new funerary circumstances, and explores the ways in which the disease’s victims in America have been publicly memorialized. Noe writes with great power and moral clarity. “This book is not an instructional manual on how to do grief,” she states. “Anyone trying to sell one of those is scamming you because grief can’t be taught any more than it can be avoided or fixed. It can only be lived, in all its devastating, enraging, world-altering ways.” The work feels slightly first-drafty at times; not every chapter is entirely on-topic (one about how Broadway reacted to Covid-19 feels particularly digressive), and the author quotes liberally from books and articles by others to pad her ideas. Even so, Noe is clearly someone who’s thought a lot about grief, and she provides readers with an opportunity to reflect on how much loss they, too, have likely experienced as a result of the pandemic.
An earnest look at the ways Covid-19 has complicated the grieving process.Pub Date: Sept. 16, 2023
ISBN: 9798988240501
Page Count: 213
Publisher: King Company Publishing
Review Posted Online: Nov. 8, 2023
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
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A conversational, pleasurable look into McConaughey’s life and thought.
All right, all right, all right: The affable, laconic actor delivers a combination of memoir and self-help book.
“This is an approach book,” writes McConaughey, adding that it contains “philosophies that can be objectively understood, and if you choose, subjectively adopted, by either changing your reality, or changing how you see it. This is a playbook, based on adventures in my life.” Some of those philosophies come in the form of apothegms: “When you can design your own weather, blow in the breeze”; “Simplify, focus, conserve to liberate.” Others come in the form of sometimes rambling stories that never take the shortest route from point A to point B, as when he recounts a dream-spurred, challenging visit to the Malian musician Ali Farka Touré, who offered a significant lesson in how disagreement can be expressed politely and without rancor. Fans of McConaughey will enjoy his memories—which line up squarely with other accounts in Melissa Maerz’s recent oral history, Alright, Alright, Alright—of his debut in Richard Linklater’s Dazed and Confused, to which he contributed not just that signature phrase, but also a kind of too-cool-for-school hipness that dissolves a bit upon realizing that he’s an older guy on the prowl for teenage girls. McConaughey’s prep to settle into the role of Wooderson involved inhabiting the mind of a dude who digs cars, rock ’n’ roll, and “chicks,” and he ran with it, reminding readers that the film originally had only three scripted scenes for his character. The lesson: “Do one thing well, then another. Once, then once more.” It’s clear that the author is a thoughtful man, even an intellectual of sorts, though without the earnestness of Ethan Hawke or James Franco. Though some of the sentiments are greeting card–ish, this book is entertaining and full of good lessons.
A conversational, pleasurable look into McConaughey’s life and thought.Pub Date: Oct. 20, 2020
ISBN: 978-0-593-13913-4
Page Count: 304
Publisher: Crown
Review Posted Online: Oct. 27, 2020
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 1, 2020
BOOK REVIEW
A sweet final word from an actor who leaves a legacy of compassion and kindness.
The late actor offers a gentle guide for living with more purpose, love, and joy.
Mixing poetry, prescriptive challenges, and elements of memoir, Heche (1969-2022) delivers a narrative that is more encouraging workbook than life story. The author wants to share what she has discovered over the course of a life filled with abuse, advocacy, and uncanny turning points. Her greatest discovery? Love. “Open yourself up to love and transform kindness from a feeling you extend to those around you to actions that you perform for them,” she writes. “Only by caring can we open ourselves up to the universe, and only by opening up to the universe can we fully experience all the wonders that it holds, the greatest of which is love.” Throughout the occasionally overwrought text, Heche is heavy on the concept of care. She wants us to experience joy as she does, and she provides a road map for how to get there. Instead of slinking away from Hollywood and the ridicule that she endured there, Heche found the good and hung on, with Alec Baldwin and Harrison Ford starring as particularly shining knights in her story. Some readers may dismiss this material as vapid Hollywood stuff, but Heche’s perspective is an empathetic blend of Buddhism (minimize suffering), dialectical behavioral therapy (tolerating distress), Christianity (do unto others), and pre-Socratic philosophy (sufficient reason). “You’re not out to change the whole world, but to increase the levels of love and kindness in the world, drop by drop,” she writes. “Over time, these actions wear away the coldness, hate, and indifference around us as surely as water slowly wearing away stone.” Readers grieving her loss will take solace knowing that she lived her love-filled life on her own terms. Heche’s business and podcast partner, Heather Duffy, writes the epilogue, closing the book on a life well lived.
A sweet final word from an actor who leaves a legacy of compassion and kindness.Pub Date: Jan. 24, 2023
ISBN: 9781627783316
Page Count: 176
Publisher: Viva Editions
Review Posted Online: Feb. 6, 2023
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2023
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