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ONE DAY I'LL GROW UP AND BE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN

A MOTHER'S STORY

A disheartening chronicle of intolerance.

Being different in America.

In an affecting memoir, novelist Maxwell recounts years of frustration, rage, and sadness as she and her husband fought for support—from schools, neighbors, and the community—for their transgender child. The couple was living in the idyllic New Hampshire town of Gilford when their son was born. The difficult infant grew into a “brilliant but angry” young boy, whose tantrums and behavior problems finally led to a diagnosis of autism. The Maxwells faced bureaucratic obstacles in finding special services at school, and soon more challenges arose: their son chose pink sneakers and opted for a witch’s costume on Halloween, inciting malicious gossip in a town that held to rigid gender conventions. Even more shocking was the full transition that their child made in first grade. She was now Greta, and, for the conservative community, she was a problem. Maxwell testifies to responses that ranged from condescending to belligerent, as parents and school administrators focused on bathrooms for transgender students, eligibility for sports teams, and controversy over adopting policy to end bullying. At one point, the superintendent ruled that the word transgender could be used only in private conversation with Greta, but never in a public setting. Interwoven with Greta’s story is the plight of Maxwell’s younger, gay brother, who attempted suicide because of the homophobia he faced. To protect their daughter from that mental anguish, the Maxwells planned to move to Montana, which they thought would provide a more accepting environment—until they discovered that the state, like many others, offered no protection against hate crimes, school bullying, or public accommodations for transgender individuals. With bigoted legislation being enacted nationwide, the Maxwells stayed in New Hampshire. They found a welcoming town, where, at last, they can watch their growing girl thrive.

A disheartening chronicle of intolerance.

Pub Date: Sept. 17, 2024

ISBN: 9780593535844

Page Count: 320

Publisher: Knopf

Review Posted Online: July 17, 2024

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2024

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I'M GLAD MY MOM DIED

The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.

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The former iCarly star reflects on her difficult childhood.

In her debut memoir, titled after her 2020 one-woman show, singer and actor McCurdy (b. 1992) reveals the raw details of what she describes as years of emotional abuse at the hands of her demanding, emotionally unstable stage mom, Debra. Born in Los Angeles, the author, along with three older brothers, grew up in a home controlled by her mother. When McCurdy was 3, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Though she initially survived, the disease’s recurrence would ultimately take her life when the author was 21. McCurdy candidly reconstructs those in-between years, showing how “my mom emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me in ways that will forever impact me.” Insistent on molding her only daughter into “Mommy’s little actress,” Debra shuffled her to auditions beginning at age 6. As she matured and starting booking acting gigs, McCurdy remained “desperate to impress Mom,” while Debra became increasingly obsessive about her daughter’s physical appearance. She tinted her daughter’s eyelashes, whitened her teeth, enforced a tightly monitored regimen of “calorie restriction,” and performed regular genital exams on her as a teenager. Eventually, the author grew understandably resentful and tried to distance herself from her mother. As a young celebrity, however, McCurdy became vulnerable to eating disorders, alcohol addiction, self-loathing, and unstable relationships. Throughout the book, she honestly portrays Debra’s cruel perfectionist personality and abusive behavior patterns, showing a woman who could get enraged by everything from crooked eyeliner to spilled milk. At the same time, McCurdy exhibits compassion for her deeply flawed mother. Late in the book, she shares a crushing secret her father revealed to her as an adult. While McCurdy didn’t emerge from her childhood unscathed, she’s managed to spin her harrowing experience into a sold-out stage act and achieve a form of catharsis that puts her mind, body, and acting career at peace.

The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.

Pub Date: Aug. 9, 2022

ISBN: 978-1-982185-82-4

Page Count: 320

Publisher: Simon & Schuster

Review Posted Online: May 30, 2022

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 2022

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THE MINOTAUR AT CALLE LANZA

An intriguing but uneven family memoir and travelogue.

An author’s trip to Venice takes a distinctly Borgesian turn.

In November 2020, soccer club Venizia F.C. offered Nigerian American author Madu a writing residency as part of its plan “to turn the team into a global entity of fashion, culture, and sports.” Flying to Venice for the fellowship, he felt guilty about leaving his immigrant parents, who were shocked to learn upon moving to the U.S. years earlier that their Nigerian teaching certifications were invalid, forcing his father to work as a stocking clerk at Rite Aid to support the family. Madu’s experiences in Venice are incidental to what is primarily a story about his family, especially his strained relationship with his father, who was disappointed with many of his son’s choices. Unfortunately, the author’s seeming disinterest in Venice renders much of the narrative colorless. He says the trip across the Ponte della Libertà bridge was “magical,” but nothing he describes—the “endless water on both sides,” the nearby seagulls—is particularly remarkable. Little in the text conveys a sense of place or the unique character of his surroundings. Madu is at his best when he focuses on family dynamics and his observations that, in the largely deserted city, “I was one of the few Black people around.” He cites Borges, giving special note to the author’s “The House of Asterion,” in which the minotaur “explains his situation as a creature and as a creature within the labyrinth” of multiple mirrors. This notion leads to the Borgesian turn in the book’s second half, when, in an extended sequence, Madu imagines himself transformed into a minotaur, with “the head of a bull” and his body “larger, thicker, powerful but also cumbersome.” It’s an engaging passage, although stylistically out of keeping with much of what has come before.

An intriguing but uneven family memoir and travelogue.

Pub Date: April 2, 2024

ISBN: 9781953368669

Page Count: 144

Publisher: Belt Publishing

Review Posted Online: Nov. 17, 2023

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 2023

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