A fresh and fascinating perspective on child-rearing.
A guide to parenting from two former CIA agents.
Based on their years of experience with the CIA, the Hillsbergs share their advice on parenting. Told primarily from Christina’s perspective, the narrative begins with an overview of their careers. During the early stage of their relationship, Christina was intrigued by Ryan’s parenting style, noting that his three children from a previous marriage seemed mature for their ages. “More than anything,” she writes, “Ryan sought to instill in his kids a spirit of adventure and knowledge of the world.” Initially apprehensive about his teaching them skills that she felt were advanced—e.g., how to use a knife or drive a motorcycle—she soon got onboard, and they began applying these same principles to the children they had together. Interweaving interesting anecdotes from their professional careers as well as applicable examples involving their children, the Hillsbergs share their key principles of raising children to become strong, safe, and independent adults. Among the skills they examine are security awareness, communication strategies, and financial responsibility. As the authors explain, children are more capable of doing things on their own than many parents believe. Unfortunately, in this era of helicopter parenting, children have often “failed to launch.” In addition to teaching children basic survival skills, exposing them to various cultures and perspectives, and offering opportunities for them to develop their own personal hobbies and interests, the Hillsbergs discuss the importance of building trust with your children, the benefits of allowing them to fail, and knowing when striving for perfection can be detrimental. As Voltaire said, and the authors echo, “perfection is the enemy of good.” By sharing their story, they hope readers will be able to use these techniques to shape their own children into security-conscious, confident, and well-rounded adults—while also giving parents a little peace of mind and reduction in anxiety.
A fresh and fascinating perspective on child-rearing.Pub Date: June 8, 2021
ISBN: 978-0-593-19111-8
Page Count: 288
Publisher: Putnam
Review Posted Online: April 12, 2021
Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 2021
The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.
The former iCarly star reflects on her difficult childhood.
In her debut memoir, titled after her 2020 one-woman show, singer and actor McCurdy (b. 1992) reveals the raw details of what she describes as years of emotional abuse at the hands of her demanding, emotionally unstable stage mom, Debra. Born in Los Angeles, the author, along with three older brothers, grew up in a home controlled by her mother. When McCurdy was 3, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. Though she initially survived, the disease’s recurrence would ultimately take her life when the author was 21. McCurdy candidly reconstructs those in-between years, showing how “my mom emotionally, mentally, and physically abused me in ways that will forever impact me.” Insistent on molding her only daughter into “Mommy’s little actress,” Debra shuffled her to auditions beginning at age 6. As she matured and starting booking acting gigs, McCurdy remained “desperate to impress Mom,” while Debra became increasingly obsessive about her daughter’s physical appearance. She tinted her daughter’s eyelashes, whitened her teeth, enforced a tightly monitored regimen of “calorie restriction,” and performed regular genital exams on her as a teenager. Eventually, the author grew understandably resentful and tried to distance herself from her mother. As a young celebrity, however, McCurdy became vulnerable to eating disorders, alcohol addiction, self-loathing, and unstable relationships. Throughout the book, she honestly portrays Debra’s cruel perfectionist personality and abusive behavior patterns, showing a woman who could get enraged by everything from crooked eyeliner to spilled milk. At the same time, McCurdy exhibits compassion for her deeply flawed mother. Late in the book, she shares a crushing secret her father revealed to her as an adult. While McCurdy didn’t emerge from her childhood unscathed, she’s managed to spin her harrowing experience into a sold-out stage act and achieve a form of catharsis that puts her mind, body, and acting career at peace.
The heartbreaking story of an emotionally battered child delivered with captivating candor and grace.Pub Date: Aug. 9, 2022
ISBN: 978-1-982185-82-4
Page Count: 320
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: May 30, 2022
Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 1, 2022
SEEN & HEARD
SEEN & HEARD
SEEN & HEARD
The lessons to draw are obvious: Smoke more dope, eat less meat. Like-minded readers will dig it.
The chef, rapper, and TV host serves up a blustery memoir with lashings of self-help.
“I’ve always had a sick confidence,” writes Bronson, ne Ariyan Arslani. The confidence, he adds, comes from numerous sources: being a New Yorker, and more specifically a New Yorker from Queens; being “short and fucking husky” and still game for a standoff on the basketball court; having strength, stamina, and seemingly no fear. All these things serve him well in the rough-and-tumble youth he describes, all stickball and steroids. Yet another confidence-builder: In the big city, you’ve got to sink or swim. “No one is just accepted—you have to fucking show that you’re able to roll,” he writes. In a narrative steeped in language that would make Lenny Bruce blush, Bronson recounts his sentimental education, schooled by immigrant Italian and Albanian family members and the mean streets, building habits good and bad. The virtue of those habits will depend on your take on modern mores. Bronson writes, for example, of “getting my dick pierced” down in the West Village, then grabbing a pizza and smoking weed. “I always smoke weed freely, always have and always will,” he writes. “I’ll just light a blunt anywhere.” Though he’s gone through the classic experiences of the latter-day stoner, flunking out and getting arrested numerous times, Bronson is a hard charger who’s not afraid to face nearly any challenge—especially, given his physique and genes, the necessity of losing weight: “If you’re husky, you’re always dieting in your mind,” he writes. Though vulgar and boastful, Bronson serves up a model that has plenty of good points, including his growing interest in nature, creativity, and the desire to “leave a legacy for everybody.”
The lessons to draw are obvious: Smoke more dope, eat less meat. Like-minded readers will dig it.Pub Date: April 20, 2021
ISBN: 978-1-4197-4478-5
Page Count: 184
Publisher: Abrams
Review Posted Online: May 5, 2021
Kirkus Reviews Issue: June 1, 2021
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