Much needed help for floundering parents—a clear-eyed assist with deciding what sexual values to impart to children, and then advice on coupling those values with accurate, age-appropriate information. Haffner, a long-time sex educator and president of the Sexualtiy Information and Education Council of the US (SIECUS), has a 13-year-old daughter and a 5-year-old son, so her advice is above all reality-based. She has a good handle on the practical basics of having a sexually healthy family: first and foremost, parents must be clear on their own values (discussion questions and questionaires here help readers work this out), and the lines of communication between parents and children must be kept wide open (yes, it’s a lot of work, and again, there is practical help offered here). Haffner goes on to address the ever-shifting issues by age group— birth to 2 years, 2-to-5-year-old preschoolers, ages 5-to-8 and then 9-to-12-year-olds. There is a lot to think about here, and Haffner pulls no punches: “I do not believe that children can protect themselves from sexual abuse,” she says. Prevention programs such as “Good touch, bad touch,” and “No, Go, Tell” “are based on the assumption that the child has the social or physical power to stop an adult pedophile’s actions, something that is unlikely to be true.” Realistic, practical, and informative—the best kind of guide for being a better parent.