Easy-to-read suggestions that will hopefully lead toward better parenting, independent children and a happily empty nest.


Raising an Independent Child (Yes, You are Leaving the Nest!)

Straightforward parenting advice from a father of three.

Witt (Things I Wish I Knew, 2009, etc.) claims no special knowledge about raising kids. “I’m not an expert and I’ve not done the research,” he says. In fact, his book is refreshingly unburdened by footnotes and references. Witt simply writes his personal story, lessons learned raising three children into their teens. From the moment his first child was born, Witt resolved to be hands-on, and he advises other fathers to do the same. “It’s not about you,” he says many times throughout the book, meaning parents should not impose their own priorities and preferences on their children. While this adage might imply the opposite—it’s all about you, kids—Witt strives to raise independent decision-makers who will grow into “interesting and interested adults” who will, crucially, leave home for good. He provides useful tips for all stages of parenting, infant through teen years, but his book is most compelling when Witt puts his parenting skills to the test. When his children were ages 6 to 12, Witt divorced and got his own “tear down” 1970s house, yet he vowed to maintain his high parenting standards. In an expanded form, this half of the book could stand alone and offer more in-depth advice on a specific, challenging parenting situation. As it stands, each chapter in Witt’s book provides entertaining, if sometimes thin, advice for both mothers and fathers. He advocates teaching the value of money with a regular allowance; kids must use their own savings for toys and other extras. Witt also sees the power of praising good behavior, not just criticizing the bad. Above all, he encourages parents to listen wholeheartedly to their kids—then step aside. “I’m available as a sounding board,” he writes, “but not a surf board.” The lessons aren’t startlingly new, but Witt’s warm, casual writing and candid anecdotes make for welcome reminders.

Easy-to-read suggestions that will hopefully lead toward better parenting, independent children and a happily empty nest.

Pub Date: Oct. 5, 2013

ISBN: 978-1492134152

Page Count: 132

Publisher: CreateSpace

Review Posted Online: Dec. 17, 2013

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A vivid sequel that strains credulity.


Fremont (After Long Silence, 1999) continues—and alters—her story of how memories of the Holocaust affected her family.

At the age of 44, the author learned that her father had disowned her, declaring her “predeceased”—or dead in his eyes—in his will. It was his final insult: Her parents had stopped speaking to her after she’d published After Long Silence, which exposed them as Jewish Holocaust survivors who had posed as Catholics in Europe and America in order to hide multilayered secrets. Here, Fremont delves further into her tortured family dynamics and shows how the rift developed. One thread centers on her life after her harrowing childhood: her education at Wellesley and Boston University, the loss of her virginity to a college boyfriend before accepting her lesbianism, her stint with the Peace Corps in Lesotho, and her decades of work as a lawyer in Boston. Another strand involves her fraught relationship with her sister, Lara, and how their difficulties relate to their father, a doctor embittered after years in the Siberian gulag; and their mother, deeply enmeshed with her own sister, Zosia, who had married an Italian count and stayed in Rome to raise a child. Fremont tells these stories with novelistic flair, ending with a surprising theory about why her parents hid their Judaism. Yet she often appears insensitive to the serious problems she says Lara once faced, including suicidal depression. “The whole point of suicide, I thought, was to succeed at it,” she writes. “My sister’s completion rate was pathetic.” Key facts also differ from those in her earlier work. After Long Silence says, for example, that the author grew up “in a small city in the Midwest” while she writes here that she grew up in “upstate New York,” changes Fremont says she made for “consistency” in the new book but that muddy its narrative waters. The discrepancies may not bother readers seeking psychological insights rather than factual accuracy, but others will wonder if this book should have been labeled a fictionalized autobiography rather than a memoir.

A vivid sequel that strains credulity.

Pub Date: Feb. 11, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-982113-60-5

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Gallery Books/Simon & Schuster

Review Posted Online: Oct. 21, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 15, 2019

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A miscellany of paternal pride (and frustration) darkened by the author’s increasing realizations of his mortality.


Ruminations and reminiscences of an author—now in his 70s—about fatherhood, writing, and death.

O’Brien (July, July, 2002, etc.), who achieved considerable literary fame with both Going After Cacciato (1978) and The Things They Carried (1990), returns with an eclectic assembly of pieces that grow increasingly valedictory as the idea of mortality creeps in. (The title comes from the author’s uncertainty about his ability to assemble these pieces in a single volume.) He begins and ends with a letter: The initial one is to his first son (from 2003); the terminal one, to his two sons, both of whom are now teens (the present). Throughout the book, there are a number of recurring sections: “Home School” (lessons for his sons to accomplish), “The Magic Show” (about his long interest in magic), and “Pride” (about his feelings for his sons’ accomplishments). O’Brien also writes often about his own father. One literary figure emerges as almost a member of the family: Ernest Hemingway. The author loves Hemingway’s work (except when he doesn’t) and often gives his sons some of Papa’s most celebrated stories to read and think and write about. Near the end is a kind of stand-alone essay about Hemingway’s writings about war and death, which O’Brien realizes is Hemingway’s real subject. Other celebrated literary figures pop up in the text, including Elizabeth Bishop, Andrew Marvell, George Orwell, and Flannery O’Connor. Although O’Brien’s strong anti-war feelings are prominent throughout, his principal interest is fatherhood—specifically, at becoming a father later in his life and realizing that he will miss so much of his sons’ lives. He includes touching and amusing stories about his toddler sons, about the sadness he felt when his older son became a teen and began to distance himself, and about his anguish when his sons failed at something.

A miscellany of paternal pride (and frustration) darkened by the author’s increasing realizations of his mortality.

Pub Date: Oct. 14, 2019

ISBN: 978-0-618-03970-8

Page Count: 384

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

Review Posted Online: July 28, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 2019

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