Learning to Love My Low Libido
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Astonishingly frank and often funny disclosures about the author’s sex life, with a serious underlying message about the actual differences between the libidos of women and men.

In this debut work, Sewell quickly engages the reader with her honest revelations about the disparity between her sex drive and that of Kip, her boyfriend, who becomes her husband despite these differences. The title sums it up: In a contest between sex and chocolate, she’ll take chocolate every time. She is not one to feign a headache, however. Sewell recreates many of the couple’s early discussions about their sexual disconnect and what to do about it, their subsequent sessions with a sex therapist, who she loathes, the near-disintegration of their marriage and the compromise that they eventually work out. Through their mostly extraordinarily amiable and rational conversations, the reader learns of their sexual fantasies and their feelings about pornography, masturbation, orgasm, quickies and oral and anal sex. Woven into this highly personal narrative is the research that Sewell did into what the so-called experts are saying about the female libido and what messages the mainstream media are sending. She watches Oprah Winfrey Show and Sex and the City, reads Ladies Home Journal, O and other magazines, John Gray’s Mars and Venus in the Bedroom and advice books with titles such as Married Lust and Hot Monogamy—together, she and Kip try to watch The Better Sex Guide video series. She concludes that even though much of the sex advice women receive is from women, it is based upon the sexual happiness of men. What’s needed, she argues, is acceptance of and respect for the idea by both sexes that there’s a significant biological difference in their sex drives.

Not weighty, but often witty.

Pub Date: Jan. 23rd, 2007
ISBN: 0-7679-2267-0
Page count: 192pp
Publisher: Broadway
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Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15th, 2006