Earnest and realistic romantic advice for readers on the autism spectrum.




An autistic man shares dating lessons and advice.

In this often moving memoir and advice book, dedicated to his “soul mate,” debut author Scarantino shares his unique perspective as a person with a disability trying to find love. His frustration is palpable in the book’s touching, succinct introduction, in which he reflects on the time before he was in a steady relationship: “I look at guys everywhere with their girlfriends and wonder if that’ll ever be me,” he writes. Yet borne from his exasperation, loneliness, and trial-and-error searching came illumination on the do’s and don’ts of dating with autism. In straightforward, declarative text that’s devoid of decoration or extraneous exposition, the 20-something author combines stories of personal encounters with sage advice about dealing with shyness and depression, differentiating between flirting and platonic friendliness, managing others’ perceptions of autistic people, and understanding inappropriate behaviors and social cues. Scarantino admits that he made errors during his first relationship in college, which he says was hastily initiated: “I bought her some things that some boyfriends wouldn’t buy for their girlfriends right away,” he notes. He counsels readers seeking romance to look for someone who “will love you for you,” and he also talks about proactively managing one’s own hypersensitivity (or marked indifference) regarding sexual conversations or interpersonal contact. Overall, Scarantino bares his soul with integrity and humor throughout this book. Along the way, he encourages readers to approach dating, both online and in person, with careful confidence and to appreciate both good and bad experiences, as “You never know where they can lead you.” Although some of the commentary is repetitive, the author’s heartfelt guidance is consistently well-intentioned, and this book will make an essential addition to autism-related libraries.

Earnest and realistic romantic advice for readers on the autism spectrum.

Pub Date: Jan. 31, 2019

ISBN: 978-1-79544-021-9

Page Count: 116

Publisher: Time Tunnel Media

Review Posted Online: June 14, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 2019

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Stricter than, say, Bergen Evans or W3 ("disinterested" means impartial — period), Strunk is in the last analysis...



Privately published by Strunk of Cornell in 1918 and revised by his student E. B. White in 1959, that "little book" is back again with more White updatings.

Stricter than, say, Bergen Evans or W3 ("disinterested" means impartial — period), Strunk is in the last analysis (whoops — "A bankrupt expression") a unique guide (which means "without like or equal").

Pub Date: May 15, 1972

ISBN: 0205632645

Page Count: 105

Publisher: Macmillan

Review Posted Online: Oct. 28, 2011

Kirkus Reviews Issue: May 1, 1972

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From the national correspondent for PBS's MacNeil-Lehrer Newshour: a moving memoir of her youth in the Deep South and her role in desegregating the Univ. of Georgia. The eldest daughter of an army chaplain, Hunter-Gault was born in what she calls the ``first of many places that I would call `my place' ''—the small village of Due West, tucked away in a remote little corner of South Carolina. While her father served in Korea, Hunter-Gault and her mother moved first to Covington, Georgia, and then to Atlanta. In ``L.A.'' (lovely Atlanta), surrounded by her loving family and a close-knit black community, the author enjoyed a happy childhood participating in activities at church and at school, where her intellectual and leadership abilities soon were noticed by both faculty and peers. In high school, Hunter-Gault found herself studying the ``comic-strip character Brenda Starr as I might have studied a journalism textbook, had there been one.'' Determined to be a journalist, she applied to several colleges—all outside of Georgia, for ``to discourage the possibility that a black student would even think of applying to one of those white schools, the state provided money for black students'' to study out of state. Accepted at Michigan's Wayne State, the author was encouraged by local civil-rights leaders to apply, along with another classmate, to the Univ. of Georgia as well. Her application became a test of changing racial attitudes, as well as of the growing strength of the civil-rights movement in the South, and Gault became a national figure as she braved an onslaught of hostilities and harassment to become the first black woman to attend the university. A remarkably generous, fair-minded account of overcoming some of the biggest, and most intractable, obstacles ever deployed by southern racists. (Photographs—not seen.)

Pub Date: Nov. 1, 1992

ISBN: 0-374-17563-2

Page Count: 192

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 1992

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