by Marc Alderdice ‧ RELEASE DATE: N/A
A tenderly observant account that champions the power of love in the face of adversity.
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A husband strives to make the right care choices after his wife is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease in this debut memoir.
At the age of 59, Alderdice’s wife of 34 years was found to have early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. The initial symptoms were subtle. The author, a pharmacologist, first began to suspect something was wrong while traveling to Texas for his father’s funeral. His wife, Mary, insisted that she would wear the same “stretched out” sweatpants in which she had chosen to travel to attend the service. She later began misplacing things and asking the same question repeatedly. In addition, her once-broad vocabulary grew limited. These issues became “the elephant in the room” until Mary made the decision to be evaluated. The memoir charts her decline in health, which included psychiatric manifestations, such as believing herself to be a little girl and referring to her husband as “Uncle Marc.” Along with adopting other identities, she also became anxious and mistrustful and began believing that Alderdice was beating her. The author recognized the necessity of moving his wife into an assisted living facility and, as her communication skills deteriorated further, to a specialized memory care unit. Three to four years after moving to memory care, Alderdice writes of experiencing a “special time” with Mary, who had then been “taken off all major psychotropic medications.” The two communicated by touch and by “talking with our eyes.” The author writes of making a new, deeper connection through nonverbal interactions that seemed to bypass the part of his wife’s “brain affected by Alzheimer’s.”
The subject matter of this work is unavoidably distressing, but Alderdice maintains a positive tone throughout, embracing the seize-the-day sentiment suggested in the book’s title: “Make the most of everything you love—the ‘dancing’ in your life—developing strong relationships and creating great memories that will last as long as possible.” The author has a levelheaded writing style, describing his physical and emotional states clearly and without unnecessary adornment: “I was starting to reach a point where endurance wasn’t enough, where I felt constantly worn out and isolated.” Caretakers will relate to Alderdice’s spectrum of emotions, from a sense of “loss and loneliness” to feelings of guilt and regret. There are occasions when the author could express himself more gracefully; for instance, recounting when Mary relocated to assisted care, Alderdice notes: “I never before realized how much room Mary’s missing hairbrush and toothbrush took up on the vanity—there were now gaping holes.” These marginally awkward sentences are rare and do not significantly detract from a well-written, uplifting memoir. The author is keenly aware that with regard to Alzheimer’s, “no two stories are the same,” but his personal experience demonstrates that the trajectory of the disease does not always take the shape of a continuous downward spiral. The suggestion that a higher plane “of happiness” may be achieved on a journey that presented “horrific times” may offer hope to those facing similar circumstances.
A tenderly observant account that champions the power of love in the face of adversity.Pub Date: N/A
ISBN: N/A
Page Count: 328
Publisher: Manuscript
Review Posted Online: Sept. 2, 2020
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by Elie Wiesel & translated by Marion Wiesel ‧ RELEASE DATE: Jan. 16, 2006
The author's youthfulness helps to assure the inevitable comparison with the Anne Frank diary although over and above the...
Elie Wiesel spent his early years in a small Transylvanian town as one of four children.
He was the only one of the family to survive what Francois Maurois, in his introduction, calls the "human holocaust" of the persecution of the Jews, which began with the restrictions, the singularization of the yellow star, the enclosure within the ghetto, and went on to the mass deportations to the ovens of Auschwitz and Buchenwald. There are unforgettable and horrifying scenes here in this spare and sombre memoir of this experience of the hanging of a child, of his first farewell with his father who leaves him an inheritance of a knife and a spoon, and of his last goodbye at Buchenwald his father's corpse is already cold let alone the long months of survival under unconscionable conditions.
Pub Date: Jan. 16, 2006
ISBN: 0374500010
Page Count: 120
Publisher: Hill & Wang
Review Posted Online: Oct. 7, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2006
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by Ron Chernow ‧ RELEASE DATE: May 13, 2025
Essential reading for any Twain buff and student of American literature.
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A decidedly warts-and-all portrait of the man many consider to be America’s greatest writer.
It makes sense that distinguished biographer Chernow (Washington: A Life and Alexander Hamilton) has followed up his life of Ulysses S. Grant with one of Mark Twain: Twain, after all, pulled Grant out of near bankruptcy by publishing the ex-president’s Civil War memoir under extremely favorable royalty terms. The act reflected Twain’s inborn generosity and his near pathological fear of poverty, the prime mover for the constant activity that characterized the author’s life. As Chernow writes, Twain was “a protean figure who played the role of printer, pilot, miner, journalist, novelist, platform artist, toastmaster, publisher, art patron, pundit, polemicist, inventor, crusader, investor, and maverick.” He was also slippery: Twain left his beloved Mississippi River for the Nevada gold fields as a deserter from the Confederate militia, moved farther west to California to avoid being jailed for feuding, took up his pseudonym to stay a step ahead of anyone looking for Samuel Clemens, especially creditors. Twain’s flaws were many in his own day. Problematic in our own time is a casual racism that faded as he grew older (charting that “evolution in matters of racial tolerance” is one of the great strengths of Chernow’s book). Harder to explain away is Twain’s well-known but discomfiting attraction to adolescent and even preadolescent girls, recruiting “angel-fish” to keep him company and angrily declaring when asked, “It isn’t the public’s affair.” While Twain emerges from Chernow’s pages as the masterful—if sometimes wrathful and vengeful—writer that he is now widely recognized to be, he had other complexities, among them a certain gullibility as a businessman that kept that much-feared poverty often close to his door, as well as an overarchingly gloomy view of the human condition that seemed incongruous with his reputation, then and now, as a humanist.
Essential reading for any Twain buff and student of American literature.Pub Date: May 13, 2025
ISBN: 9780525561729
Page Count: 1200
Publisher: Penguin Press
Review Posted Online: Feb. 1, 2025
Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2025
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