Presented as a counterpart to the editors' previous volume, Women on Divorce (which will be reissued in paperback simultaneously with this hardcover publication), here are 15 entirely disparate takes by men, among them Edward Hoagland and Stephen Dobyns. Nearly all the contributors lay claim to suffering, some to real learning. For Ted Solotaroff, ``Getting the Point'' meant doing more than just getting on with life, as men are trained to do; he manages to sound becomingly self-aware (``She had to deal with the isolation of the single woman while I had only to pick up the phone to become an available man''), rather than platitudinously self-conscious, as the flagellations of the younger set do. The most writerly voice belongs to John A. Williams, who left his family despite his promising upward mobility in post-GI- bill Syracuse and his vow that he'd never do what his father did, because he yearned for something ``audacious'' in life: The ``compulsion to leave was greater than the will to stay.'' Almost half the contributors cite what their parents did as influential: Benjamin Cheever blames his dad's drinking for his early impulse to marry (and his dad's quitting, whereupon he could go home again, for his impulse to divorce); Luis Rodriguez roots his addictions and abusive rages in his family's emigration from Mexico and their ensuing marginalization in L.A.; Walter Kirn, whose parents didn't break up until after he himself was married, confirms that ``when the rug is pulled out from under you emotionally, it isn't necessarily an advantage to be standing on your own two feet.'' Divorce registers differently in Italy, per Tim Parks's chronicle of a friend's intoxicating affair, and in Japan, where self- fulfillment American style doesn't come easily, as Richard Gilman and his current wife discovered at great cost. But self-examination is the same everywhere, as these essays too often attest. (First serial to the New Yorker, New York Times Magazine, Redbook)
Pub Date: Feb. 21, 1997
ISBN: 0-15-100115-4
Page Count: 224
Publisher: Harcourt
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Dec. 15, 1996
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A vivid sequel that strains credulity.
Fremont (After Long Silence, 1999) continues—and alters—her story of how memories of the Holocaust affected her family.
At the age of 44, the author learned that her father had disowned her, declaring her “predeceased”—or dead in his eyes—in his will. It was his final insult: Her parents had stopped speaking to her after she’d published After Long Silence, which exposed them as Jewish Holocaust survivors who had posed as Catholics in Europe and America in order to hide multilayered secrets. Here, Fremont delves further into her tortured family dynamics and shows how the rift developed. One thread centers on her life after her harrowing childhood: her education at Wellesley and Boston University, the loss of her virginity to a college boyfriend before accepting her lesbianism, her stint with the Peace Corps in Lesotho, and her decades of work as a lawyer in Boston. Another strand involves her fraught relationship with her sister, Lara, and how their difficulties relate to their father, a doctor embittered after years in the Siberian gulag; and their mother, deeply enmeshed with her own sister, Zosia, who had married an Italian count and stayed in Rome to raise a child. Fremont tells these stories with novelistic flair, ending with a surprising theory about why her parents hid their Judaism. Yet she often appears insensitive to the serious problems she says Lara once faced, including suicidal depression. “The whole point of suicide, I thought, was to succeed at it,” she writes. “My sister’s completion rate was pathetic.” Key facts also differ from those in her earlier work. After Long Silence says, for example, that the author grew up “in a small city in the Midwest” while she writes here that she grew up in “upstate New York,” changes Fremont says she made for “consistency” in the new book but that muddy its narrative waters. The discrepancies may not bother readers seeking psychological insights rather than factual accuracy, but others will wonder if this book should have been labeled a fictionalized autobiography rather than a memoir.
A vivid sequel that strains credulity.Pub Date: Feb. 11, 2020
ISBN: 978-1-982113-60-5
Page Count: 352
Publisher: Gallery Books/Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: Oct. 20, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Nov. 15, 2019
BOOK REVIEW
A straightforward tale of kindness and paying it forward in 1980s New York.
When advertising executive Schroff answered a child’s request for spare change by inviting him for lunch, she did not expect the encounter to grow into a friendship that would endure into his adulthood. The author recounts how she and Maurice, a promising boy from a drug-addicted family, learned to trust each other. Schroff acknowledges risks—including the possibility of her actions being misconstrued and the tension of crossing socio-economic divides—but does not dwell on the complexities of homelessness or the philosophical problems of altruism. She does not question whether public recognition is beneficial, or whether it is sufficient for the recipient to realize the extent of what has been done. With the assistance of People human-interest writer Tresniowski (Tiger Virtues, 2005, etc.), Schroff adheres to a personal narrative that traces her troubled relationship with her father, her meetings with Maurice and his background, all while avoiding direct parallels, noting that their childhoods differed in severity even if they shared similar emotional voids. With feel-good dramatizations, the story seldom transcends the message that reaching out makes a difference. It is framed in simple terms, from attributing the first meeting to “two people with complicated pasts and fragile dreams” that were “somehow meant to be friends” to the conclusion that love is a driving force. Admirably, Schroff notes that she did not seek a role as a “substitute parent,” and she does not judge Maurice’s mother for her lifestyle. That both main figures experience a few setbacks yet eventually survive is never in question; the story fittingly concludes with an epilogue by Maurice. For readers seeking an uplifting reminder that small gestures matter.
Pub Date: Nov. 1, 2011
ISBN: 978-1-4516-4251-3
Page Count: 288
Publisher: Howard Books/Simon & Schuster
Review Posted Online: July 26, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Sept. 1, 2011
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