by Stephanie Larkin ‧ RELEASE DATE: May 1, 2018
A personal, relatable study of grief.
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A widow shares hard-won advice with those facing bereavement.
Larkin (Introduction to Chizigula, 2019, etc.) lost her husband, Ron, to brain cancer. Two months after his death, she became the full-time caregiver for her mother, who had Alzheimer’s. This new role kept her from feeling the true weight of her loss. Based on her research, she believes she suffered from “delayed grief.” Moreover, she suspects she had experienced “anticipatory grief,” a term coined by psychiatrist Erich Lindemann in 1944, starting with Ron’s diagnosis. By weaving in expert opinions on “grief work,” the author gives a more nuanced picture of the bereavement process than is conveyed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ now-discredited five stages. Larkin fleshes out the models by describing her own sorrow’s emotional range. Throughout the book, she uses the effective metaphor of grief as a country made up of various states, such as Numbness, Depression, Social Withdrawal, and Self-Absorption. The main text is interspersed with essays and poetry written at different points on her grief journey; these offer windows into her state of mind at the time. For instance, in an early poem she writes of Ron: “He is a shadow of himself / A ghost, walking backwards / Away from my outstretched hand / But never beyond true love’s grasp.” Larkin maintained her emotional health through faith, bereavement support groups, and purposeful work with refugees. She found, though, that she had to adjust her expectations when “invisible friends” dropped out of her life. Figuring out her ongoing role in her stepchildren’s lives was an additional challenge. The most helpful sections of the work generalize from the author’s experiences to give lists of what a widow needs in the first few months (most importantly, for people to simply “acknowledge her loss”) and what not to say (“at least…” and other platitudes). It’s common to compare grief, Larkin notes—claiming that the loss of a child is worse than that of a husband, for instance—but such judgmental attitudes are unconstructive. Every death is painful, as she convincingly argues.
A personal, relatable study of grief.Pub Date: May 1, 2018
ISBN: 978-0-9976983-3-6
Page Count: 214
Publisher: Ahadi Publications
Review Posted Online: Aug. 21, 2019
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Oct. 15, 2019
Review Program: Kirkus Indie
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by E.T.A. Hoffmann ‧ RELEASE DATE: Oct. 28, 1996
This is not the Nutcracker sweet, as passed on by Tchaikovsky and Marius Petipa. No, this is the original Hoffmann tale of 1816, in which the froth of Christmas revelry occasionally parts to let the dark underside of childhood fantasies and fears peek through. The boundaries between dream and reality fade, just as Godfather Drosselmeier, the Nutcracker's creator, is seen as alternately sinister and jolly. And Italian artist Roberto Innocenti gives an errily realistic air to Marie's dreams, in richly detailed illustrations touched by a mysterious light. A beautiful version of this classic tale, which will captivate adults and children alike. (Nutcracker; $35.00; Oct. 28, 1996; 136 pp.; 0-15-100227-4)
Pub Date: Oct. 28, 1996
ISBN: 0-15-100227-4
Page Count: 136
Publisher: Harcourt
Review Posted Online: May 19, 2010
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Aug. 15, 1996
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by Ludwig Bemelmans ‧ RELEASE DATE: Feb. 23, 1955
An extravaganza in Bemelmans' inimitable vein, but written almost dead pan, with sly, amusing, sometimes biting undertones, breaking through. For Bemelmans was "the man who came to cocktails". And his hostess was Lady Mendl (Elsie de Wolfe), arbiter of American decorating taste over a generation. Lady Mendl was an incredible person,- self-made in proper American tradition on the one hand, for she had been haunted by the poverty of her childhood, and the years of struggle up from its ugliness,- until she became synonymous with the exotic, exquisite, worshipper at beauty's whrine. Bemelmans draws a portrait in extremes, through apt descriptions, through hilarious anecdote, through surprisingly sympathetic and understanding bits of appreciation. The scene shifts from Hollywood to the home she loved the best in Versailles. One meets in passing a vast roster of famous figures of the international and artistic set. And always one feels Bemelmans, slightly offstage, observing, recording, commenting, illustrated.
Pub Date: Feb. 23, 1955
ISBN: 0670717797
Page Count: -
Publisher: Viking
Review Posted Online: Oct. 25, 2011
Kirkus Reviews Issue: Feb. 1, 1955
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