A good introduction for the curious.

THE MAN WITH THE BEAUTIFUL VOICE

AND MORE STORIES FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COUCH

Sensitive accounts of unusual cases on the frontiers of psychotherapy.

“One of the dangerous seductions of being a therapist,” avers Rubin (Sociology/Berkeley; Intimate Strangers, 1982), “is the kind of authority our patients give over to us and that we too often encourage.” This stance informs her project, as she seeks to demystify aspects of contemporary psychotherapy in a work intended primarily for nonpractitioners. She begins by discussing the clinical training that all therapists undergo, noting that while certain boundaries are crucial, traditional psychotherapists rely unduly on inviolate rules (e.g., never hug a patient) and on securing a firm, unambiguous diagnosis for each patient. Six chapters illustrate the limits of this stance by focusing on patients who brought both seemingly intractable problems and unforeseen twists to the analytic process. In one, Rubin treats a young woman unable to progress past childish, petulant paranoia by gradually coaxing a history of childhood trauma from her in exchange for rituals of friendship the patient sorely needs. The title essay refers to a man born without use of his legs due to his mother’s thalidomide use; his formidable hostility towards the world at large and therapists in particular (for their perceived hypocrisy) make him a difficult patient, but Rubin connects with him via his raw, emotional painting. Two essays depict seemingly successful professionals whose secret lives blow up dramatically during couples therapy. One is a woman concealing her actual husband from Rubin in favor of a pretend spouse; the other is a light-skinned black man who has “passed” for years without telling his colleagues or girlfriend. The woman ultimately flees, while the man’s startling admission ultimately resolves many personal difficulties. Rubin considers her own responses to these patients, a process termed “countertransference.” Although her techniques seem unorthodox, she argues persuasively that intensive psychotherapy remains a successful defense for the individual against the traumatic complexities of our lives.

A good introduction for the curious.

Pub Date: June 1, 2003

ISBN: 0-8070-2926-2

Page Count: 162

Publisher: Beacon

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: March 1, 2003

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Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

THE 48 LAWS OF POWER

The authors have created a sort of anti-Book of Virtues in this encyclopedic compendium of the ways and means of power.

Everyone wants power and everyone is in a constant duplicitous game to gain more power at the expense of others, according to Greene, a screenwriter and former editor at Esquire (Elffers, a book packager, designed the volume, with its attractive marginalia). We live today as courtiers once did in royal courts: we must appear civil while attempting to crush all those around us. This power game can be played well or poorly, and in these 48 laws culled from the history and wisdom of the world’s greatest power players are the rules that must be followed to win. These laws boil down to being as ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and deceitful as possible. Each law, however, gets its own chapter: “Conceal Your Intentions,” “Always Say Less Than Necessary,” “Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy,” and so on. Each chapter is conveniently broken down into sections on what happened to those who transgressed or observed the particular law, the key elements in this law, and ways to defensively reverse this law when it’s used against you. Quotations in the margins amplify the lesson being taught. While compelling in the way an auto accident might be, the book is simply nonsense. Rules often contradict each other. We are told, for instance, to “be conspicuous at all cost,” then told to “behave like others.” More seriously, Greene never really defines “power,” and he merely asserts, rather than offers evidence for, the Hobbesian world of all against all in which he insists we live. The world may be like this at times, but often it isn’t. To ask why this is so would be a far more useful project.

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1998

ISBN: 0-670-88146-5

Page Count: 430

Publisher: Viking

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 1998

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