One woman's adventures in the online dating scene.
When her husband of many years abruptly left her for another woman, Grey (a pseudonym), in her early 50s, went through the stages of grief and denial before finally admitting she needed to find another man to fill the emptiness in her heart. Not knowing where else to look, she turned to the numerous online dating sites to find a possible mate, filling out questionnaires, attaching photographs, and launching into the project with gusto, enthusiasm, and a sense of humor. What she discovered over the course of two-plus years of reading profiles, connecting via email, Skype, texting, and in-person dates unfolds in a genuinely human story of needs, wants, dreams, hopes, humor, and shock. Grey was unprepared for the men interested only in sex in all its forms: in real life, in sexting, in Skyping. She was also not ready for the instant rejections she received based on her profile, lengthy emails, and visuals of her ample body, and she was ill-equipped for the heart-pounding reality of meeting yet another stranger, falling briefly for him, only to discover he was another dud. As the author persisted in her pursuit of finding love again, she discovered a lot about herself, which helped her dismiss the bottom feeders and otherwise creepy men, but it left her no closer to finding a life companion. Direct, sincere, humiliating, and oftentimes funny, Grey's dalliances with countless men will have readers shaking their heads, shouting, 'no, don't do it,' while cheering her on with shared optimism as she ventures out yet again into the midlife dating fray. Any single person contemplating the use of online dating sites would do well to read Grey's account for what to do and not to do and what to expect from these matchmaking endeavors.
A frank, guileless, and useful account of a 50-something’s search for love through online dating services.