Readers may want more explanations, but even the gaps in this well-written, engrossing book about an abusive mother are...

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JOCKEY DAUGHTER

I DO NOT HAVE TO BE BEATEN TO CROSS THE FINISH LINE

This debut memoir offers a glimpse into the world of horse racing and a detailed account of abuse.

Cooper grew up in suburban Maryland through the 1960s and ’70s. With six siblings, her family, particularly her mother, was very active in the community and the Roman Catholic Church. Her father was a well-known jockey; other jockeys and trainers often visited their home and Cooper’s family often traveled to attend races. On the outside, the family seemed vibrant, successful, and caring. But most of Cooper’s story occurs inside the house where her mother regularly abused all seven children, physically, verbally, and psychologically. From a young age, Cooper called her “our mother,” refusing to connect herself with this “tooth-clenching, red-faced, angry monster.” Her recollections of abuse are harrowing and infuriating. The children were beaten with a hairbrush or potato masher often because they didn’t clean the house to perfection. Cooper was beaten because her young brother fell down a hole in the woods. She was often beaten and peppered with obscenities for no apparent reason at all. Cooper asks whether readers need another book on abuse but her memoir offers more than “misery lit.” She shows how abuse from a parent is particularly insidious and damaging. Mostly, she and her siblings accepted their lot. Cooper is clear that she hated her mother and wished her dead. Yet she felt she could only fight back by leaving, which she did through marriage. Despite the title of the book, her father played a minor role and did not intervene. The author does not question this. Even as an adult with two children of her own, Cooper could not turn away her still abusive mother at Thanksgiving. And although she “often wondered” what caused her mother’s behavior, she doesn’t delve into family history or medical explanations. This reflects a time when mental illness was not discussed but it also, quite poignantly, reflects the inner turmoil of a child abused by a parent, the “battle with conflicting hatred…and longing for the nurturing aspect.”

Readers may want more explanations, but even the gaps in this well-written, engrossing book about an abusive mother are revealing.

Pub Date: Oct. 7, 2016

ISBN: 978-1-5320-0440-7

Page Count: 192

Publisher: iUniverse

Review Posted Online: Jan. 31, 2017

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Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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An eye-opening glimpse into the attempted self-unmaking of one of Hollywood’s most recognizable talents.

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The debut memoir from the pop and fashion star.

Early on, Simpson describes the book she didn’t write: “a motivational manual telling you how to live your best life.” Though having committed to the lucrative deal years before, she “walked away,” fearing any sort of self-help advice she might give would be hypocritical. Outwardly, Simpson was at the peak of her success, with her fashion line generating “one billion dollars in annual sales.” However, anxiety was getting the better of her, and she admits she’d become a “feelings addict,” just needing “enough noise to distract me from the pain I’d been avoiding since childhood. The demons of traumatic abuse that refused to let me sleep at night—Tylenol PM at age twelve, red wine and Ambien as a grown, scared woman. Those same demons who perched on my shoulder, and when they saw a man as dark as them, leaned in to my ear to whisper, ‘Just give him your light. See if it saves him…’ ” On Halloween 2017, Simpson hit rock bottom, and, with the intervention of her devoted friends and husband, began to address her addictions and underlying fears. In this readable but overlong narrative, the author traces her childhood as a Baptist preacher’s daughter moving 18 times before she “hit fifth grade,” and follows her remarkable rise to fame as a singer. She reveals the psychological trauma resulting from years of sexual abuse by a family friend, experiences that drew her repeatedly into bad relationships with men, most publicly with ex-husband Nick Lachey. Admitting that she was attracted to the validating power of an audience, Simpson analyzes how her failings and triumphs have enabled her to take control of her life, even as she was hounded by the press and various music and movie executives about her weight. Simpson’s memoir contains plenty of personal and professional moments for fans to savor.

An eye-opening glimpse into the attempted self-unmaking of one of Hollywood’s most recognizable talents.

Pub Date: Feb. 4, 2020

ISBN: 978-0-06-289996-5

Page Count: 416

Publisher: Dey Street/HarperCollins

Review Posted Online: Feb. 16, 2020

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