An inspiring and poignant, if not always riveting, account of love and healing.



An Israeli couple becomes inspired by their experiences with their son to dedicate their lives to educating other children with disabilities in this debut memoir.

Samuels was born and raised in Vancouver (his Canadian bona fides include getting The Guess Who to play at his high school during his tenure as student council president) and first visited Israel as a college student. He loved the country so much that—against the wishes of his secular family—he decided to move there, join a Hasidic community, and switch his educational course to Jewish studies. At the age of 21, a matchmaker introduced him to Malki, who would become his wife. The couple soon began to raise a family, but one day they noticed that their second child, Shalom Yosef or “Yossi,” was ill. As a result of a faulty vaccination, Yossi’s eyes became glassy and he began to suffer from convulsions and hyperactivity. Samuels and his wife ultimately took Yossi to New York to receive a full diagnosis: Their son was permanently blind and partially deaf. They had great difficulty finding a school for Yossi, as most were equipped to educate a blind student but not a partly deaf one or vice versa. Back in Tel Aviv, they finally found an instructor who was prepared to teach Yossi sign language by signing words into his palm, including shulhan (table): “We were all sobbing as Shoshana began to demonstrate on the palms of Yossi’s sister and brothers how to spell shulhan, and how to sign the other letters. She told them: ‘You, too, are going to learn the letters, and you’ll at last be able speak to your brother.’ ” Malki was so inspired by the treatment that she asked Samuels to help her make it available to other families in need. Their vision was a center with after-school therapy and support for children with disabilities. The result was Shalva—the name is the Hebrew word for serenity—though the difficulties in bringing such a place into being proved to be greater than either Samuels or Malki could have imagined.

Samuels’ story is a remarkable one, offering an immersive portrait of both Israel and the state of disability care in the 1970s and ’80s. The author’s prose is competent but a bit dry. For every heartwarming (or heartbreaking) moment, there are many more dedicated to the logistics of starting and running a nonprofit: “Inroads had been made, but the bills kept piling up. Within six months, I was taking another week off from Binational for another visit to New York, but this time I was better prepared. On a shoestring budget I created a short but moving video, which included testimonials from parents of Shalva children.” The most touching sections are the ones that deal directly with Yossi, whom the author renders with great warmth and subtlety. Also compelling is the extent to which Samuels was driven by his own faith while at the same time recognizing the limits of traditional religion’s ability to educate disabled children. Those interested in the history and development of disability care will be particularly moved by the Samuelses’ story.

An inspiring and poignant, if not always riveting, account of love and healing.

Pub Date: May 15, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-59264-525-1

Page Count: 368

Publisher: Toby Press

Review Posted Online: April 25, 2020

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If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.


The authors have created a sort of anti-Book of Virtues in this encyclopedic compendium of the ways and means of power.

Everyone wants power and everyone is in a constant duplicitous game to gain more power at the expense of others, according to Greene, a screenwriter and former editor at Esquire (Elffers, a book packager, designed the volume, with its attractive marginalia). We live today as courtiers once did in royal courts: we must appear civil while attempting to crush all those around us. This power game can be played well or poorly, and in these 48 laws culled from the history and wisdom of the world’s greatest power players are the rules that must be followed to win. These laws boil down to being as ruthless, selfish, manipulative, and deceitful as possible. Each law, however, gets its own chapter: “Conceal Your Intentions,” “Always Say Less Than Necessary,” “Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy,” and so on. Each chapter is conveniently broken down into sections on what happened to those who transgressed or observed the particular law, the key elements in this law, and ways to defensively reverse this law when it’s used against you. Quotations in the margins amplify the lesson being taught. While compelling in the way an auto accident might be, the book is simply nonsense. Rules often contradict each other. We are told, for instance, to “be conspicuous at all cost,” then told to “behave like others.” More seriously, Greene never really defines “power,” and he merely asserts, rather than offers evidence for, the Hobbesian world of all against all in which he insists we live. The world may be like this at times, but often it isn’t. To ask why this is so would be a far more useful project.

If the authors are serious, this is a silly, distasteful book. If they are not, it’s a brilliant satire.

Pub Date: Sept. 1, 1998

ISBN: 0-670-88146-5

Page Count: 430

Publisher: Viking

Review Posted Online: May 20, 2010

Kirkus Reviews Issue: July 15, 1998

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More life reflections from the bestselling author on themes of societal captivity and the catharsis of personal freedom.

In her third book, Doyle (Love Warrior, 2016, etc.) begins with a life-changing event. “Four years ago,” she writes, “married to the father of my three children, I fell in love with a woman.” That woman, Abby Wambach, would become her wife. Emblematically arranged into three sections—“Caged,” “Keys,” “Freedom”—the narrative offers, among other elements, vignettes about the soulful author’s girlhood, when she was bulimic and felt like a zoo animal, a “caged girl made for wide-open skies.” She followed the path that seemed right and appropriate based on her Catholic upbringing and adolescent conditioning. After a downward spiral into “drinking, drugging, and purging,” Doyle found sobriety and the authentic self she’d been suppressing. Still, there was trouble: Straining an already troubled marriage was her husband’s infidelity, which eventually led to life-altering choices and the discovery of a love she’d never experienced before. Throughout the book, Doyle remains open and candid, whether she’s admitting to rigging a high school homecoming court election or denouncing the doting perfectionism of “cream cheese parenting,” which is about “giving your children the best of everything.” The author’s fears and concerns are often mirrored by real-world issues: gender roles and bias, white privilege, racism, and religion-fueled homophobia and hypocrisy. Some stories merely skim the surface of larger issues, but Doyle revisits them in later sections and digs deeper, using friends and familial references to personify their impact on her life, both past and present. Shorter pieces, some only a page in length, manage to effectively translate an emotional gut punch, as when Doyle’s therapist called her blooming extramarital lesbian love a “dangerous distraction.” Ultimately, the narrative is an in-depth look at a courageous woman eager to share the wealth of her experiences by embracing vulnerability and reclaiming her inner strength and resiliency.

Doyle offers another lucid, inspiring chronicle of female empowerment and the rewards of self-awareness and renewal.

Pub Date: March 10, 2020

ISBN: 978-1-9848-0125-8

Page Count: 352

Publisher: Dial Books

Review Posted Online: Dec. 22, 2019

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 15, 2020

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