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WHAT DO I TELL MY DAUGHTER?

HARD-WON WISDOM FOR TOMORROW’S WOMEN

A repetitive but often compelling remembrance that’s enhanced by vivid scenes of conflict and reinvention.

Trexler’s memoir explores her struggle to balance her career, motherhood, marriage, and her quest for spiritual fulfillment.

The author opens her story in 2014, with a memory of her breaking down in tears beside the family dog while her tween children were upstairs, occupied with homework and their phones; she felt her “insides tighten at the thought of how far I was from the woman I’d imagined I’d be at this point in my life.” Trexler then traces the events that led to that moment, beginning with her successful career as a Denver news anchor in 2003, during which she also raised twin infants with her husband, David. She found that the mounting pressures of trying to be both a high-achieving professional and a “superstar mom” wore her down. When David pursued an opportunity to become the chief marketing officer for a restaurant chain in Florida, Trexler sacrificed her news-anchor position for the sake of family stability, only for the economic turmoil of the late 2000s to derail their plans. Back in Denver, the author was forced to reinvent herself professionally with freelance public relations work, and she began searching for deeper meaning through yoga, energy healing, and spiritual exploration. But as her confidence and self-awareness grew, she began to experience marriage difficulties, which led to a divorce, but the author was also forced to more broadly reflect on how she wanted her own daughter to perceive her. Trexler uses a heartfelt and effective framing device of addressing her advice directly to her daughter Kylie at the close of each chapter. However, the memoir becomes repetitious, often circling back to the pressures of “having it all,” and some chapters feel overlong, especially when they focus on self-actualization rhetoric. Trexler’s prose sharpens considerably when she presents concrete accounts of emotional scenes in her life. Whether she’s remembering the death of the family dog, her experiences visiting a psychic, or her riveting confrontations with her spouse, the author shows tremendous vulnerability while offering engaging self-help advice.

A repetitive but often compelling remembrance that’s enhanced by vivid scenes of conflict and reinvention.

Pub Date: Oct. 6, 2026

ISBN: 9798896361640

Page Count: 256

Publisher: She Writes Press

Review Posted Online: May 22, 2026

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TANQUERAY

A blissfully vicarious, heartfelt glimpse into the life of a Manhattan burlesque dancer.

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A former New York City dancer reflects on her zesty heyday in the 1970s.

Discovered on a Manhattan street in 2020 and introduced on Stanton’s Humans of New York Instagram page, Johnson, then 76, shares her dynamic history as a “fiercely independent” Black burlesque dancer who used the stage name Tanqueray and became a celebrated fixture in midtown adult theaters. “I was the only black girl making white girl money,” she boasts, telling a vibrant story about sex and struggle in a bygone era. Frank and unapologetic, Johnson vividly captures aspects of her former life as a stage seductress shimmying to blues tracks during 18-minute sets or sewing lingerie for plus-sized dancers. Though her work was far from the Broadway shows she dreamed about, it eventually became all about the nightly hustle to simply survive. Her anecdotes are humorous, heartfelt, and supremely captivating, recounted with the passion of a true survivor and the acerbic wit of a weathered, street-wise New Yorker. She shares stories of growing up in an abusive household in Albany in the 1940s, a teenage pregnancy, and prison time for robbery as nonchalantly as she recalls selling rhinestone G-strings to prostitutes to make them sparkle in the headlights of passing cars. Complemented by an array of revealing personal photographs, the narrative alternates between heartfelt nostalgia about the seedier side of Manhattan’s go-go scene and funny quips about her unconventional stage performances. Encounters with a variety of hardworking dancers, drag queens, and pimps, plus an account of the complexities of a first love with a drug-addled hustler, fill out the memoir with personality and candor. With a narrative assist from Stanton, the result is a consistently titillating and often moving story of human struggle as well as an insider glimpse into the days when Times Square was considered the Big Apple’s gloriously unpolished underbelly. The book also includes Yee’s lush watercolor illustrations.

A blissfully vicarious, heartfelt glimpse into the life of a Manhattan burlesque dancer.

Pub Date: July 12, 2022

ISBN: 978-1-250-27827-2

Page Count: 192

Publisher: St. Martin's

Review Posted Online: July 27, 2022

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LOVE, PAMELA

A juicy story with some truly crazy moments, yet Anderson's good heart shines through.

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The iconic model tells the story of her eventful life.

According to the acknowledgments, this memoir started as "a fifty-page poem and then grew into hundreds of pages of…more poetry." Readers will be glad that Anderson eventually turned to writing prose, since the well-told anecdotes and memorable character sketches are what make it a page-turner. The poetry (more accurately described as italicized notes-to-self with line breaks) remains strewn liberally through the pages, often summarizing the takeaway or the emotional impact of the events described: "I was / and still am / an exceptionally / easy target. / And, / I'm proud of that." This way of expressing herself is part of who she is, formed partly by her passion for Anaïs Nin and other writers; she is a serious maven of literature and the arts. The narrative gets off to a good start with Anderson’s nostalgic memories of her childhood in coastal Vancouver, raised by very young, very wild, and not very competent parents. Here and throughout the book, the author displays a remarkable lack of anger. She has faced abuse and mistreatment of many kinds over the decades, but she touches on the most appalling passages lightly—though not so lightly you don't feel the torment of the media attention on the events leading up to her divorce from Tommy Lee. Her trip to the pages of Playboy, which involved an escape from a violent fiance and sneaking across the border, is one of many jaw-dropping stories. In one interesting passage, Julian Assange's mother counsels Anderson to desexualize her image in order to be taken more seriously as an activist. She decided that “it was too late to turn back now”—that sexy is an inalienable part of who she is. Throughout her account of this kooky, messed-up, enviable, and often thrilling life, her humility (her sons "are true miracles, considering the gene pool") never fails her.

A juicy story with some truly crazy moments, yet Anderson's good heart shines through.

Pub Date: Jan. 31, 2023

ISBN: 9780063226562

Page Count: 256

Publisher: Dey Street/HarperCollins

Review Posted Online: Dec. 5, 2022

Kirkus Reviews Issue: Jan. 1, 2023

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